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<blockquote data-quote="ch574" data-source="post: 252682" data-attributes="member: 6994"><p>Thank you SO much for your time!! It's often amazing to me that a complete stranger will seemingly put more effort into considering a situation than a paid professional!</p><p> </p><p>To answer your questions, my son was evaluated by our school district this past fall. He was referred by teachers at his school (a Montessori school) for his failure to conform. If I had been more on the ball a year ago, I wouldn't realized that maybe a Montessori environment wasn't the best choice for him... but I thought calm classroom would help him focus better. The Child Study Team found him eligible for special services in our public school because of what they called a 42% social delay. He wasn't really interacting with the kids at school, nor always responding appropriately when they approached him. I was floored because we have a playgroup we've known since he was a baby, and he interacts with those kids just fine. I would say he still seems to prefer side-by-side play, but he will initiate running games, or catch, or hide and seek. He won't initiate sitting games, and typically ignores the kids if they initiate something he doesn't want to play. I figured this was "normal."</p><p> </p><p>The Child Study Team described him as delayed in both language processing and behavior. I moved him to the public school early in Feb, he receives two sessions of pull-out small group speech therapy a week. That's it. He is THRIVING, and the teacher says he's doing well all around (socially, academically, and his behavior has been fine too). </p><p> </p><p>I was sent to the pediatric neurologist to rule out any spectrum possibilities because one of his Montessori teachers wrote on an evaluation that my son didn't make eye contact. I disagreed with this because I think his eye contact is normal for a preschooler. But I thought it was better to be safe than sorry. My pediatrician told me I would dislike the personality of this specialist, but that he was absolutely the best in our area at spotting ANY sort of spectrum disorder. He prounounced ODD/ADHD within 10 minutes of meeting us (my son refused to comply with the request of "draw mommy with these crayons"), and referred me to one of the aforementioned guys for futher assistance. -He just never clarified for me what kind of assistance it was... further testing, assistance for me as a parent, assistance for my son... etc.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>1. Family mental health history is about as shockingly boring as it can get. My mother is slightly prone to depression, but she's never been hospitalized for it. Was medicated for it briefly after the death of her mother, but that's about it. My husband's side has nothing. I am inclined to think my sister would be diagnosed with ODD if she were a kid today, because she gave my parents a very difficult time.</p><p> </p><p>2. My son's speech was slightly delayed, but I wasn't worried. Late talkers run rampant of my husband's side. My husband supposedly didn't say much before 2, my nephew (his sister's kid) didn't say much before 2 1/2. My son met all the language milestones with the bare requirements, and because I wasn't worried, we never investigated it further. His current speech delay is in the area of language processing. He has trouble getting his thoughts in order and carrying on a conversation. I thought it was immaturity... but whatever they're doing for him over at his new school seems to really be working. He can carry on a small conversation now, and is able to direct his thoughts enough to answer questions more accurately.</p><p> </p><p>3. Great sleeper. Always has been. Slept though the night at 6 months. He wakes occasionally with a bad dream, but he's pretty easily soothed. While I might have difficulty getting him to accept that it's bedtime, once he's in bed and we're doing stories, I've never once had a problem keeping him in his bed.</p><p> </p><p>4. I can't think of anything else that stands out with his behavior. Although, now that my 20-month old is progressing into the terrible twos, I'm seeing differences. If the baby touches something dangerous, all I have to do is say "no!" and he backs off and turns his own attention to something else. My 4 year old required multiple warnings (I even slapped his hands to try and drive home the point when he was trying to pry off electrical covers), and in hindsight... he seemed to be interested in observing MY behavior when he reached for something off limits. He also pushed boundaries... If I said to stop hitting the wall with his trucks, he would hit it with a block. If I said to stop hitting the wall, he would bang the floor... all the time, watching me. And yes, eventually I would lose it and take away the toy, or put him in time out. This is why I feel like it's my fault. I'm making it worse. When he talks to his brother, he uses the same angry inflection and words I've used with him. Oh... and the specialist described him as "attention seeking." </p><p> </p><p>5. Nothing unusual in his development. He's almost the size of a 6 year old, but I'm 5'10", and my husband is tall as well. It would be more unusual if my son were small. </p><p> </p><p>Thanks again for your time and thoughts (both of you!). I feel like maybe I've found a rock in this stormy sea by finding this site.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>ps... is there a spot on this site where I can find out what all the abbreviations mean? daughter, difficult child, etc...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ch574, post: 252682, member: 6994"] Thank you SO much for your time!! It's often amazing to me that a complete stranger will seemingly put more effort into considering a situation than a paid professional! To answer your questions, my son was evaluated by our school district this past fall. He was referred by teachers at his school (a Montessori school) for his failure to conform. If I had been more on the ball a year ago, I wouldn't realized that maybe a Montessori environment wasn't the best choice for him... but I thought calm classroom would help him focus better. The Child Study Team found him eligible for special services in our public school because of what they called a 42% social delay. He wasn't really interacting with the kids at school, nor always responding appropriately when they approached him. I was floored because we have a playgroup we've known since he was a baby, and he interacts with those kids just fine. I would say he still seems to prefer side-by-side play, but he will initiate running games, or catch, or hide and seek. He won't initiate sitting games, and typically ignores the kids if they initiate something he doesn't want to play. I figured this was "normal." The Child Study Team described him as delayed in both language processing and behavior. I moved him to the public school early in Feb, he receives two sessions of pull-out small group speech therapy a week. That's it. He is THRIVING, and the teacher says he's doing well all around (socially, academically, and his behavior has been fine too). I was sent to the pediatric neurologist to rule out any spectrum possibilities because one of his Montessori teachers wrote on an evaluation that my son didn't make eye contact. I disagreed with this because I think his eye contact is normal for a preschooler. But I thought it was better to be safe than sorry. My pediatrician told me I would dislike the personality of this specialist, but that he was absolutely the best in our area at spotting ANY sort of spectrum disorder. He prounounced ODD/ADHD within 10 minutes of meeting us (my son refused to comply with the request of "draw mommy with these crayons"), and referred me to one of the aforementioned guys for futher assistance. -He just never clarified for me what kind of assistance it was... further testing, assistance for me as a parent, assistance for my son... etc. 1. Family mental health history is about as shockingly boring as it can get. My mother is slightly prone to depression, but she's never been hospitalized for it. Was medicated for it briefly after the death of her mother, but that's about it. My husband's side has nothing. I am inclined to think my sister would be diagnosed with ODD if she were a kid today, because she gave my parents a very difficult time. 2. My son's speech was slightly delayed, but I wasn't worried. Late talkers run rampant of my husband's side. My husband supposedly didn't say much before 2, my nephew (his sister's kid) didn't say much before 2 1/2. My son met all the language milestones with the bare requirements, and because I wasn't worried, we never investigated it further. His current speech delay is in the area of language processing. He has trouble getting his thoughts in order and carrying on a conversation. I thought it was immaturity... but whatever they're doing for him over at his new school seems to really be working. He can carry on a small conversation now, and is able to direct his thoughts enough to answer questions more accurately. 3. Great sleeper. Always has been. Slept though the night at 6 months. He wakes occasionally with a bad dream, but he's pretty easily soothed. While I might have difficulty getting him to accept that it's bedtime, once he's in bed and we're doing stories, I've never once had a problem keeping him in his bed. 4. I can't think of anything else that stands out with his behavior. Although, now that my 20-month old is progressing into the terrible twos, I'm seeing differences. If the baby touches something dangerous, all I have to do is say "no!" and he backs off and turns his own attention to something else. My 4 year old required multiple warnings (I even slapped his hands to try and drive home the point when he was trying to pry off electrical covers), and in hindsight... he seemed to be interested in observing MY behavior when he reached for something off limits. He also pushed boundaries... If I said to stop hitting the wall with his trucks, he would hit it with a block. If I said to stop hitting the wall, he would bang the floor... all the time, watching me. And yes, eventually I would lose it and take away the toy, or put him in time out. This is why I feel like it's my fault. I'm making it worse. When he talks to his brother, he uses the same angry inflection and words I've used with him. Oh... and the specialist described him as "attention seeking." 5. Nothing unusual in his development. He's almost the size of a 6 year old, but I'm 5'10", and my husband is tall as well. It would be more unusual if my son were small. Thanks again for your time and thoughts (both of you!). I feel like maybe I've found a rock in this stormy sea by finding this site. ps... is there a spot on this site where I can find out what all the abbreviations mean? daughter, difficult child, etc... [/QUOTE]
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