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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 366165" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I do not do allowances. We have done them in the past. When difficult child got one there was ALWAYS a tantrum because we would not take him to a store so he could spend it as soon as he got it. If he spent his allowance and then saw something he liked he would rage. He also would be out and want to buy something and not have the $$. Since we shop a LOT in thrift stores and used bookstores and used music/video stores, there was every chance it would be gone by the time we went back. We did this a few times and he would flat out refuse to pay us back. If I bought the item and held it until he paid for it (we called it Momaway instead of layaway) he would not only refuse to pay for it but he would finagle a way to steal it from us. </p><p></p><p>He would steal Jessie's and thank you;s money or force them to buy some broken toy or ripped up book for more than the original price. If they didn't do it he hit them AND destroyed two or three of their favorite toys or books. </p><p></p><p>We even tried keeping a running tally on paper and only giving them the $$ when they were going to make a pre-planned purchase that we had approved of. Wiz then conned my parents into buying some expensive toys by altering the tally and showing it to them with a promise in writing to pay them back. (To ice that cake several of the times it happened Wiz was helped to buy an item we had already forbidden.)</p><p></p><p>Now we give them $$ if they are going somewhere. They have chores to do as part of the family and they can do certain chores for pay. Tyler has asked us to hold his cash until he is going somewhere because he is constantly losing it in his room. We know it isn't stolen by Jess because I can usually find it in his room. Last time we cleaned his room we found over $50 that he "put away" in several places so he wouldn't forget them, LOL!</p><p></p><p>If the younger two do not have cash with them and want to buy something they NEVER ask if we would loan them the $$ until they got home. If we offer they sometimes take us up on it, but not always. They also pay us back without reminders before they use the item (unless it is something like an ice cream while we are out). They both play roles in developing and sticking to the family budget and are both fairly savvy with money. </p><p></p><p>My father does give them about $20 a month for allowance but we have no clue why. He has done it almost since birth for them. Says he wants to and he is the Grandfather and if I object too much he will give them double. (They have heard this and never bugged me about objecting other than in jest in front of him. Wiz would have hounded me every single day until I gave in and gpa gave him the raise.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 366165, member: 1233"] I do not do allowances. We have done them in the past. When difficult child got one there was ALWAYS a tantrum because we would not take him to a store so he could spend it as soon as he got it. If he spent his allowance and then saw something he liked he would rage. He also would be out and want to buy something and not have the $$. Since we shop a LOT in thrift stores and used bookstores and used music/video stores, there was every chance it would be gone by the time we went back. We did this a few times and he would flat out refuse to pay us back. If I bought the item and held it until he paid for it (we called it Momaway instead of layaway) he would not only refuse to pay for it but he would finagle a way to steal it from us. He would steal Jessie's and thank you;s money or force them to buy some broken toy or ripped up book for more than the original price. If they didn't do it he hit them AND destroyed two or three of their favorite toys or books. We even tried keeping a running tally on paper and only giving them the $$ when they were going to make a pre-planned purchase that we had approved of. Wiz then conned my parents into buying some expensive toys by altering the tally and showing it to them with a promise in writing to pay them back. (To ice that cake several of the times it happened Wiz was helped to buy an item we had already forbidden.) Now we give them $$ if they are going somewhere. They have chores to do as part of the family and they can do certain chores for pay. Tyler has asked us to hold his cash until he is going somewhere because he is constantly losing it in his room. We know it isn't stolen by Jess because I can usually find it in his room. Last time we cleaned his room we found over $50 that he "put away" in several places so he wouldn't forget them, LOL! If the younger two do not have cash with them and want to buy something they NEVER ask if we would loan them the $$ until they got home. If we offer they sometimes take us up on it, but not always. They also pay us back without reminders before they use the item (unless it is something like an ice cream while we are out). They both play roles in developing and sticking to the family budget and are both fairly savvy with money. My father does give them about $20 a month for allowance but we have no clue why. He has done it almost since birth for them. Says he wants to and he is the Grandfather and if I object too much he will give them double. (They have heard this and never bugged me about objecting other than in jest in front of him. Wiz would have hounded me every single day until I gave in and gpa gave him the raise.) [/QUOTE]
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