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almost 3 year old! I need help :(
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 507071" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I agree with all my board peers here.... sounds like you have a child the same as each one of us has.... one that is wired differently and as you beautifully put it.. it is not that you expect her to be perfect... you SEE in your own second child that there will be issues with kids... </p><p></p><p>But our kids do these things (and others) to a different degree, intensity and frequency. It is NOT the same as parenting a typical child and no typical family parent can ever ever understand...even if they try. So turn your ears off to them. (eyes if on the internet, smile)</p><p></p><p>I would for sure call ECSE (called similar things in each state) Early Childhood Special Education. But if you happen to not be in a place where they are as good as they should be (it happens, should be the same everywhere but we all know that different areas are differetn) for sure also pursue a private evaluation. If you need a referral very politely but assuredly TELL your doctor what you want. They will often try to reassure you that things are within normal limits. Unfortunately it is not their gamble to take. One thing that is SOLID in any research/literature is that though there are no guarantees.... for differently wired kids (adhd, sensory integration disorders, language impairments, autism spectrum etc...)early intervention gives them a better chance.</p><p></p><p>So...to do list: (especially if you are concerned in these areas...but sometimes it is really subtle so it is nice to have things checked out to make sure)</p><p></p><p>1. Call ECSE for free evaluation.... if they hem and haw put the request in writing because then they are mandated by law to follow up and do the assessment within a certain period of time.</p><p></p><p>2. Call for a neuropsychologist evaluation ...</p><p></p><p>3. Call for a speech/language evaluation (includes social communication and processing problems)</p><p></p><p>4. Occupational Therapy Evaluation for sensory integration disorder (the touch sensitivity,not wanting to cuddle, any issues with sounds? with things she sees? With picky food issues or smell problems.... kids either can avoid these or seek out certain specific things) Good to check motor development too.</p><p></p><p>Most of us who have ever gone to a childhood psychologist come away with a behavioral diagnosis which usually leads to more sticker charts and time outs and things we already know do not help very well. these things can work well for a few things and for kids who do not have differently wired brains... but for our kids who learn in a different way or process information in a different way....well it typically does not help. (and we are left feeling like we are poor parents to some degree since all the interventions focus on how we do things wrong even when we follow their suggestions to a T)</p><p></p><p>HUGS, and supportive shoulders to lean on...... Let us know how things are going.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 507071, member: 12886"] I agree with all my board peers here.... sounds like you have a child the same as each one of us has.... one that is wired differently and as you beautifully put it.. it is not that you expect her to be perfect... you SEE in your own second child that there will be issues with kids... But our kids do these things (and others) to a different degree, intensity and frequency. It is NOT the same as parenting a typical child and no typical family parent can ever ever understand...even if they try. So turn your ears off to them. (eyes if on the internet, smile) I would for sure call ECSE (called similar things in each state) Early Childhood Special Education. But if you happen to not be in a place where they are as good as they should be (it happens, should be the same everywhere but we all know that different areas are differetn) for sure also pursue a private evaluation. If you need a referral very politely but assuredly TELL your doctor what you want. They will often try to reassure you that things are within normal limits. Unfortunately it is not their gamble to take. One thing that is SOLID in any research/literature is that though there are no guarantees.... for differently wired kids (adhd, sensory integration disorders, language impairments, autism spectrum etc...)early intervention gives them a better chance. So...to do list: (especially if you are concerned in these areas...but sometimes it is really subtle so it is nice to have things checked out to make sure) 1. Call ECSE for free evaluation.... if they hem and haw put the request in writing because then they are mandated by law to follow up and do the assessment within a certain period of time. 2. Call for a neuropsychologist evaluation ... 3. Call for a speech/language evaluation (includes social communication and processing problems) 4. Occupational Therapy Evaluation for sensory integration disorder (the touch sensitivity,not wanting to cuddle, any issues with sounds? with things she sees? With picky food issues or smell problems.... kids either can avoid these or seek out certain specific things) Good to check motor development too. Most of us who have ever gone to a childhood psychologist come away with a behavioral diagnosis which usually leads to more sticker charts and time outs and things we already know do not help very well. these things can work well for a few things and for kids who do not have differently wired brains... but for our kids who learn in a different way or process information in a different way....well it typically does not help. (and we are left feeling like we are poor parents to some degree since all the interventions focus on how we do things wrong even when we follow their suggestions to a T) HUGS, and supportive shoulders to lean on...... Let us know how things are going. [/QUOTE]
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