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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 315463" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>No you're not crazy.</p><p></p><p>If there is a family liaison officer on post maybe you could go have a chat with that person. They will really get why it's not a good idea to have an out of control kid in post housing when dad is deployed/training. Don't know if they will do more than listen but I would explain to them that you and husband are doing everything you can to help your daughter. But you do not agree with the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) release recommendations because you fear for the safety of your daughter and your other children should she be released home and is there anything they can do to help?</p><p></p><p>Other option would be a chaplain - you would know that you weren't risking losing your housing right off with him/her or that your husband's CO would hear about it (assuming he/she hasn't already).</p><p></p><p>If his CO knows what's up and is supportive I would use that lever too if husband thinks it would be helpful. CO may have options to help that you aren't aware of without asking. Don't know.</p><p></p><p>You don't say whether the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) specializes or has a lot of experience dealing with military families. If they don't I would definitely try to get someone from the hospital medical social work or family liaison or chaplain to go to bat for you. If the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) isn't military-oriented they are not too likely to get the scope of your concerns or take them seriously. I do.</p><p></p><p>I would document your concerns about your daughter's proposed return home in a letter to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) administration, her caseworker/SW, and anyone else you think appropriate. Have husband sign it too, even if you have to FAX it to him at a Kinko's so no one in his unit knows about it. You need to present a united front.</p><p></p><p>I would emphasize her continuing to cut while deliberately deceiving staff about it and her failure to participate in a meaningful way in therapy, which you had understood was a basic requirement for rising to level 1.</p><p></p><p>You may want to offer that you would agree to a group home placement, therapeutic foster care or other appropriate out-of-home placement if the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is no longer able to meet her needs.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 315463, member: 7948"] No you're not crazy. If there is a family liaison officer on post maybe you could go have a chat with that person. They will really get why it's not a good idea to have an out of control kid in post housing when dad is deployed/training. Don't know if they will do more than listen but I would explain to them that you and husband are doing everything you can to help your daughter. But you do not agree with the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) release recommendations because you fear for the safety of your daughter and your other children should she be released home and is there anything they can do to help? Other option would be a chaplain - you would know that you weren't risking losing your housing right off with him/her or that your husband's CO would hear about it (assuming he/she hasn't already). If his CO knows what's up and is supportive I would use that lever too if husband thinks it would be helpful. CO may have options to help that you aren't aware of without asking. Don't know. You don't say whether the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) specializes or has a lot of experience dealing with military families. If they don't I would definitely try to get someone from the hospital medical social work or family liaison or chaplain to go to bat for you. If the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) isn't military-oriented they are not too likely to get the scope of your concerns or take them seriously. I do. I would document your concerns about your daughter's proposed return home in a letter to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) administration, her caseworker/SW, and anyone else you think appropriate. Have husband sign it too, even if you have to FAX it to him at a Kinko's so no one in his unit knows about it. You need to present a united front. I would emphasize her continuing to cut while deliberately deceiving staff about it and her failure to participate in a meaningful way in therapy, which you had understood was a basic requirement for rising to level 1. You may want to offer that you would agree to a group home placement, therapeutic foster care or other appropriate out-of-home placement if the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is no longer able to meet her needs. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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