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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 743956" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>Thanks so much for the input. I have done so many things over the years after I said I wouldn't. I had just told him that I would give him X amount a week and pay for his phone and then when he lost his job got locked up I gave him money. No wonder he keeps calling. I think it is a good idea to write it down for myself. I am also reading this book Enabler which I am hoping will also help me clarify. He was on a straight talk phone plan that I could pay online so I knew where it is going but he decided to get a better phone so it is more money. Told him I would pay him the same as I had before but now I am not sure where the money is going. Right now he has no money for the phone so it will get turned off soon. Waiting for the call tonight that he didn't get the job and he has no place to live. I am so very very tried of this. I love this child immensely so it is hard to throw in the towel. Sometimes I wish we didn't have the money to help him it would be a lot easier to say no. It's hard for me to say I don't have the money and then go on a trip to Costa Rica or wherever. I do resent that because I have worked very hard all my life to get to where I am today. I do not spend money wildly. I moved out when I was 18 ,put myself through college and worked numerous jobs at the same time. I have spent my life helping others it feels so wrong to turn my back on him. I do know he needs to help himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 743956, member: 23328"] Thanks so much for the input. I have done so many things over the years after I said I wouldn't. I had just told him that I would give him X amount a week and pay for his phone and then when he lost his job got locked up I gave him money. No wonder he keeps calling. I think it is a good idea to write it down for myself. I am also reading this book Enabler which I am hoping will also help me clarify. He was on a straight talk phone plan that I could pay online so I knew where it is going but he decided to get a better phone so it is more money. Told him I would pay him the same as I had before but now I am not sure where the money is going. Right now he has no money for the phone so it will get turned off soon. Waiting for the call tonight that he didn't get the job and he has no place to live. I am so very very tried of this. I love this child immensely so it is hard to throw in the towel. Sometimes I wish we didn't have the money to help him it would be a lot easier to say no. It's hard for me to say I don't have the money and then go on a trip to Costa Rica or wherever. I do resent that because I have worked very hard all my life to get to where I am today. I do not spend money wildly. I moved out when I was 18 ,put myself through college and worked numerous jobs at the same time. I have spent my life helping others it feels so wrong to turn my back on him. I do know he needs to help himself. [/QUOTE]
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