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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 232224" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>"How were we supposed to know to ask whether she took the bus to school? It makes me wonder what else I should be asking? Clearly, she will not tell me otherwise."</p><p></p><p>You've now brought it to her attention. I would emphasise that while before, she may have not thought you needed to know, but she now knows differently. Make a point of keeping her informed of your own movements, but also require this of her. "It's very kind of the other mother to give you a lift, I'm not at all saying that she shouldn't, or that you shouldn't have accepted, but from here on, just keep us informed just so we won't worry. It's an important habit to get into, one which I will also work on so you won't worry either, about where any of the rest of us might be."</p><p></p><p>About Ivan Milat - here are a couple of links. His is only one case of many of this sort of thing, the reason why parents worry. He was able to kidnap, rape and murder individuals as well as couples, who you would have thought would be better able to keep themselves safe. He did it by first winning their trust (they were driving along one of Australia's major highways, what could go wrong?) and then by immobilising one victim while he took his time with the other, before returning to take his time again, with the remaining one. I won't go into more detail here, but it shows that you really need to know the rules about keeping yourself safe, and then not trusting that it will be enough.</p><p></p><p>WIkipedia : <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Backpacker_murders" target="_blank">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Backpacker_murders</a></p><p></p><p>If you read forensic or detective stories, this will be right up your alley. Otherwise... it's chilling, gruesome and worrying. The guy will never be released, but he won't talk and there is a lot of conjecture about whether he really did act alone, and how many other murders he has committed.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 232224, member: 1991"] "How were we supposed to know to ask whether she took the bus to school? It makes me wonder what else I should be asking? Clearly, she will not tell me otherwise." You've now brought it to her attention. I would emphasise that while before, she may have not thought you needed to know, but she now knows differently. Make a point of keeping her informed of your own movements, but also require this of her. "It's very kind of the other mother to give you a lift, I'm not at all saying that she shouldn't, or that you shouldn't have accepted, but from here on, just keep us informed just so we won't worry. It's an important habit to get into, one which I will also work on so you won't worry either, about where any of the rest of us might be." About Ivan Milat - here are a couple of links. His is only one case of many of this sort of thing, the reason why parents worry. He was able to kidnap, rape and murder individuals as well as couples, who you would have thought would be better able to keep themselves safe. He did it by first winning their trust (they were driving along one of Australia's major highways, what could go wrong?) and then by immobilising one victim while he took his time with the other, before returning to take his time again, with the remaining one. I won't go into more detail here, but it shows that you really need to know the rules about keeping yourself safe, and then not trusting that it will be enough. WIkipedia : [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Backpacker_murders[/url] If you read forensic or detective stories, this will be right up your alley. Otherwise... it's chilling, gruesome and worrying. The guy will never be released, but he won't talk and there is a lot of conjecture about whether he really did act alone, and how many other murders he has committed. Marg [/QUOTE]
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