Jewell
Ah, shucks. Grandparents don't have to be the bad guy. And there isn't a kid on the planet who doesn't realize it's the grandparents job to spoil them as much as possible without the parents finding out. Of course he's gonna act differently around grandma. duh No brainer there.
N got upset just today because Aubrey wouldn't eat lunch for her. I asked to try and Aubrey gobbled up her food like she was starving. I explained to N that it's only cuz I'm Nana. I had the same problem with her and her sibs when they were young.
It's not your job to be difficult child's best friend. It's your job to be his parent with all of the responsibilities that go along with it.
I'd have lots of trouble with a pediatrician doctor bad mouthing me to grandma when I wasn't there.
Now if you're worried difficult child isn't smiling and laughing enough when with you, maybe you can evaluation your days with him and see if you could insert a few mins of fun here and there. This was necessary with my difficult child T because he was the one who was ALWAYS into trouble and had to be watched like a hawk. I had to take special care that I was remembering to use praise and take every opportunity to get a giggle out of the boy. (he didn't give me much to work with)
There is nothing wrong with being a strict parent.
Hugs
