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Am I too detached now?!
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 290374" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Jo</p><p> </p><p>Sounds healthy enough to me. Although I'd have insisted on that information in case of emergencies that can crop up, not to necessarily be informed on man friend.</p><p> </p><p>At some point we simply have to cut the cord and let them be their own person. Falling on their face and learning to pick themselves back up again goes along with that. I do alot of the "where was I at their age/how did I look at things" thinking when it comes to my kids. Helps me keep that healthy detachment firmly in place. Seems to me the best lessons I learned were by falling flat on my face and learning how to fix it myself. By the age of 20 I was married, had a miscarriage, my first child, and was living in a new state 9 hrs away from any family. I had to learn how to make that work, and work well. </p><p> </p><p>My grandma had 4 major difficult children out of 7 children. At 18 there were on their own to succeed or to fail. She was a single parent long before welfare existed. Working 2 jobs and raising younger kids.......she had no time to over worry over her grown kids. All of them turned into successful "normalish" adults. Two remained difficult children due to mental illness, but still managed to function fairly well in the world.</p><p> </p><p>I figure if it worked with her kids.......it'll work with mine. So far it has worked well.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 290374, member: 84"] Jo Sounds healthy enough to me. Although I'd have insisted on that information in case of emergencies that can crop up, not to necessarily be informed on man friend. At some point we simply have to cut the cord and let them be their own person. Falling on their face and learning to pick themselves back up again goes along with that. I do alot of the "where was I at their age/how did I look at things" thinking when it comes to my kids. Helps me keep that healthy detachment firmly in place. Seems to me the best lessons I learned were by falling flat on my face and learning how to fix it myself. By the age of 20 I was married, had a miscarriage, my first child, and was living in a new state 9 hrs away from any family. I had to learn how to make that work, and work well. My grandma had 4 major difficult children out of 7 children. At 18 there were on their own to succeed or to fail. She was a single parent long before welfare existed. Working 2 jobs and raising younger kids.......she had no time to over worry over her grown kids. All of them turned into successful "normalish" adults. Two remained difficult children due to mental illness, but still managed to function fairly well in the world. I figure if it worked with her kids.......it'll work with mine. So far it has worked well.:happy: [/QUOTE]
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