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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 281043" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I am definitely a loner and, while I don't dislike people in general, a little of them goes a long way.</p><p>Growing up, I was an only child and I think I got used to being by myself (with my dog). </p><p>In high school, I did have about 3 close friends but I was made fun of by most of the kids (being called "boobs" by everybody when you're just coming of age definitely has an effect). </p><p>All my life, I tried to get close to people and fit in in large groups (or even small groups) but that is just not who I am. I don't think that people don't like me; I have lots of acquaintances who seem to laugh at my jokes and they probably think they know me but they don't.</p><p>I'm very lucky to have about 3 or 4 very close friends that I made in college (40 years ago). Three of us are getting together this weekend. Those are really the only people that I feel comfortable being myself with.</p><p>I do feel sometimes that I am putting on an act. I go out; I socialize; I come home thinking that those people don't have a clue what I am really thinking. I much prefer to be at home alone with my dogs and my books but I do make myself go out because I know it is good for me to see some other people occasionally.</p><p>I used to worry about being like that. As I get older I have realized that that is who I am. It does not make me unhappy; it just makes me different. </p><p>If you are truly unhappy with the situation then I suppose you need to work harder to find some people that you share some interests with and hope that you will strike up a friendship. I have learned that real friendships don't usually blossom overnight. It takes as much or more time to grow a good friendship as it does to grow a marriage or an oak tree. But if you are only unhappy with the status quo because you think you should be different and that is what other people expect, then lean back and enjoy who you are. I have come to realize that if I tried to be friendly and socialize with lots of people every day the man in the little white coat would have to come and take me away to the funny farm. We are not all cut out to be social butterflies. As long as I have my dogs and my books and a FEW friends, I am happy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 281043, member: 135"] I am definitely a loner and, while I don't dislike people in general, a little of them goes a long way. Growing up, I was an only child and I think I got used to being by myself (with my dog). In high school, I did have about 3 close friends but I was made fun of by most of the kids (being called "boobs" by everybody when you're just coming of age definitely has an effect). All my life, I tried to get close to people and fit in in large groups (or even small groups) but that is just not who I am. I don't think that people don't like me; I have lots of acquaintances who seem to laugh at my jokes and they probably think they know me but they don't. I'm very lucky to have about 3 or 4 very close friends that I made in college (40 years ago). Three of us are getting together this weekend. Those are really the only people that I feel comfortable being myself with. I do feel sometimes that I am putting on an act. I go out; I socialize; I come home thinking that those people don't have a clue what I am really thinking. I much prefer to be at home alone with my dogs and my books but I do make myself go out because I know it is good for me to see some other people occasionally. I used to worry about being like that. As I get older I have realized that that is who I am. It does not make me unhappy; it just makes me different. If you are truly unhappy with the situation then I suppose you need to work harder to find some people that you share some interests with and hope that you will strike up a friendship. I have learned that real friendships don't usually blossom overnight. It takes as much or more time to grow a good friendship as it does to grow a marriage or an oak tree. But if you are only unhappy with the status quo because you think you should be different and that is what other people expect, then lean back and enjoy who you are. I have come to realize that if I tried to be friendly and socialize with lots of people every day the man in the little white coat would have to come and take me away to the funny farm. We are not all cut out to be social butterflies. As long as I have my dogs and my books and a FEW friends, I am happy. [/QUOTE]
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