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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 281082" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Add another one to the club. I'm very sociable by nature. can hold my own in any social situation and everyone thinks they get to know "me" etc. But I leave and come home to my family and books and painting and am quite happy that way. I have one good friend from way back to high school days. We don't live too close anymore but see each other a few times a year. We speak every couple weeks by phone and also stay in touch in between via internet. She knows the "real me". Otherwise, I've tried through the years but like was mentioned earlier in this thread, I'd end up used or just plain not treated properly as a friend. We all in this house joke about being hermit like. </p><p>But the fact is, we are all pretty happy in our circle. We do get out enough to not feel like shut ins or anything. But the phone rarely rings, and we have our own patterns of having fun together at home or going out as a family. I'm too old to play games with friendships. I'd love to find one or a few really true friends, but I haven't seemed to find one in a long time. Not anyone I can feel "myself" around. </p><p>I have gotten over it, over time, that feeling that this must be weird of me. I don't find it strange at all. The more people I meet my age or older seem to be the same. I don't feel unhappy or that my life isn't as full simply because I dont have a large circle of friends. There are moments I'd love a girls night out with women who I felt truly close to, but otherwise, I'm content at this stage in my life with the way things are for me.</p><p>I am definitly a "watcher". People fascinate me.</p><p>I don't think it has to be a bad thing to not have a large circle of people close to me. Truly, my life has been so full of carp that it could easily be too much for "friends" to cope with. Now that life is settling into somewhat normalcy, perhaps this will change. But I won't be stressed if things stay the way they are. </p><p>I think for you Steely it is probably a bit more bothersome because you are living alone. I hope that even in the social situations that you aren't really close to anyone, you can find some good in those interactions. Even those types of socializing can be incredibly healthy.</p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 281082, member: 4264"] Add another one to the club. I'm very sociable by nature. can hold my own in any social situation and everyone thinks they get to know "me" etc. But I leave and come home to my family and books and painting and am quite happy that way. I have one good friend from way back to high school days. We don't live too close anymore but see each other a few times a year. We speak every couple weeks by phone and also stay in touch in between via internet. She knows the "real me". Otherwise, I've tried through the years but like was mentioned earlier in this thread, I'd end up used or just plain not treated properly as a friend. We all in this house joke about being hermit like. But the fact is, we are all pretty happy in our circle. We do get out enough to not feel like shut ins or anything. But the phone rarely rings, and we have our own patterns of having fun together at home or going out as a family. I'm too old to play games with friendships. I'd love to find one or a few really true friends, but I haven't seemed to find one in a long time. Not anyone I can feel "myself" around. I have gotten over it, over time, that feeling that this must be weird of me. I don't find it strange at all. The more people I meet my age or older seem to be the same. I don't feel unhappy or that my life isn't as full simply because I dont have a large circle of friends. There are moments I'd love a girls night out with women who I felt truly close to, but otherwise, I'm content at this stage in my life with the way things are for me. I am definitly a "watcher". People fascinate me. I don't think it has to be a bad thing to not have a large circle of people close to me. Truly, my life has been so full of carp that it could easily be too much for "friends" to cope with. Now that life is settling into somewhat normalcy, perhaps this will change. But I won't be stressed if things stay the way they are. I think for you Steely it is probably a bit more bothersome because you are living alone. I hope that even in the social situations that you aren't really close to anyone, you can find some good in those interactions. Even those types of socializing can be incredibly healthy. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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