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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 283926" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Interestingly.....</p><p> </p><p>When we all had our meeting at the end of the day, and everyone listed what they had done to show love....difficult child, in fact, did NOT identify making a sandwich as an act of love.</p><p> </p><p>You were so right, it never occurred to her that something like that would be an act of love. In her mind, it was time for lunch....she was hungry....Mom did not seem to be making the sandwiches (remember, Mom was on the phone)....and so difficult child made the sandwiches exactly as Mom would have....lay out three paper plates, make three sandwiches, pour three drinks, set out three napkins and everyone sits down to eat.</p><p> </p><p>We structure our meeting so that each person is listed in turn and the question is put to the group: "<em>OK--what did Mom do for you today that showed how much she loves you</em>?"</p><p> </p><p>And the answers will be she hugged us, she made dinner, and I might add "<em>O, I also paid the cable bill so you can watch all your favorite TV channels</em>."</p><p> </p><p>And when we get to DS, we usually list the chores he did such as taking out the garbage and sweeping the front walk.</p><p> </p><p>So when it was difficult child's turn, she was very proud to list that she had done dishes and helped make dinner--but the rest of the family <em>chimed in about the sandwich</em>.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child was really confused and admitted that she didn't "get" why that would count.</p><p> </p><p>So now I'm back to thinking that we are looking at an "Aspergers" type of diagnosis instead of Mood Disorder and ODD...</p><p> </p><p>I am also so impressed with this group....you were so right about the fact that she probably wouldn't understand. I didn't realize that would be the case. I guess I have been falling for the advice that I have received from too many useless tdocs (<em>There's nothing wrong with her, she's just being stubborn to get her own way</em>!)</p><p> </p><p>So for now, we are going to continue with these meetings and hopefully difficult child will begin to learn how to act more lovingly with her family.</p><p> </p><p>And in the meantime, I wonder whether I should once again be trying to pursue testing for Aspergers? At the last two phosps, I was treated like some kind of idiot for even enquiring about further testing. Pediatrician referred us to useless psychiatrist...doesn't think there is anything more than typical teen issues.</p><p> </p><p>Any suggestions are more than welcome....</p><p> </p><p>Thank you all for everything you do! You support and your incredible insight is so appreciated!!</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyF</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 283926, member: 6546"] Interestingly..... When we all had our meeting at the end of the day, and everyone listed what they had done to show love....difficult child, in fact, did NOT identify making a sandwich as an act of love. You were so right, it never occurred to her that something like that would be an act of love. In her mind, it was time for lunch....she was hungry....Mom did not seem to be making the sandwiches (remember, Mom was on the phone)....and so difficult child made the sandwiches exactly as Mom would have....lay out three paper plates, make three sandwiches, pour three drinks, set out three napkins and everyone sits down to eat. We structure our meeting so that each person is listed in turn and the question is put to the group: "[I]OK--what did Mom do for you today that showed how much she loves you[/I]?" And the answers will be she hugged us, she made dinner, and I might add "[I]O, I also paid the cable bill so you can watch all your favorite TV channels[/I]." And when we get to DS, we usually list the chores he did such as taking out the garbage and sweeping the front walk. So when it was difficult child's turn, she was very proud to list that she had done dishes and helped make dinner--but the rest of the family [I]chimed in about the sandwich[/I]. difficult child was really confused and admitted that she didn't "get" why that would count. So now I'm back to thinking that we are looking at an "Aspergers" type of diagnosis instead of Mood Disorder and ODD... I am also so impressed with this group....you were so right about the fact that she probably wouldn't understand. I didn't realize that would be the case. I guess I have been falling for the advice that I have received from too many useless tdocs ([I]There's nothing wrong with her, she's just being stubborn to get her own way[/I]!) So for now, we are going to continue with these meetings and hopefully difficult child will begin to learn how to act more lovingly with her family. And in the meantime, I wonder whether I should once again be trying to pursue testing for Aspergers? At the last two phosps, I was treated like some kind of idiot for even enquiring about further testing. Pediatrician referred us to useless psychiatrist...doesn't think there is anything more than typical teen issues. Any suggestions are more than welcome.... Thank you all for everything you do! You support and your incredible insight is so appreciated!! --DaisyF [/QUOTE]
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