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An Update! re: easy child being bullied...help please
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 22524" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Suz is right. </p><p></p><p>The thing is, difficult children do tend to be discipline more harshly because, I think, people feel they need it more. You can't let them get away with any bad behaviour. We saw this with difficult child 3 especially - he would be punished for the end result of a long interaction which began with a group of kids bullying him. But only difficult child would be punished. And when he complained about being bullied, they not only didn't take him seriously, they punished him for shouting at the teacher who sent him back to the area with the bully. Then later, they sent him AND the bully back to the classroom, unsupervised, to get their schoolbags. And when the bully reported that difficult child 3 had hit him - it was difficult child 3 who got detention. This bully would lie in wait for difficult child 3 in the neighbourhood and attack him, unprovoked (as reported by independent witnesses). The school didn't handle it. It only stopped when I stepped in and faced the kid with his mother (who actually is a very nice person). The bully was given boundaries and has adhered to them. No more problems.</p><p></p><p>Stepping in to complain can lead to further victimisation, but once you begin to take action, you should never back down. If the bullying continues or escalates as a result of making complaints, you complain louder, longer and higher up. As bullies get suspended, eventually they either get the message, or get taken out of the environment.</p><p></p><p>Give easy child a hug for me, tell her she's a responsible but brave girl to be doing this. She won't be the only kid being bullied and if she can stop this now, there are others who will be safer as a result.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 22524, member: 1991"] Suz is right. The thing is, difficult children do tend to be discipline more harshly because, I think, people feel they need it more. You can't let them get away with any bad behaviour. We saw this with difficult child 3 especially - he would be punished for the end result of a long interaction which began with a group of kids bullying him. But only difficult child would be punished. And when he complained about being bullied, they not only didn't take him seriously, they punished him for shouting at the teacher who sent him back to the area with the bully. Then later, they sent him AND the bully back to the classroom, unsupervised, to get their schoolbags. And when the bully reported that difficult child 3 had hit him - it was difficult child 3 who got detention. This bully would lie in wait for difficult child 3 in the neighbourhood and attack him, unprovoked (as reported by independent witnesses). The school didn't handle it. It only stopped when I stepped in and faced the kid with his mother (who actually is a very nice person). The bully was given boundaries and has adhered to them. No more problems. Stepping in to complain can lead to further victimisation, but once you begin to take action, you should never back down. If the bullying continues or escalates as a result of making complaints, you complain louder, longer and higher up. As bullies get suspended, eventually they either get the message, or get taken out of the environment. Give easy child a hug for me, tell her she's a responsible but brave girl to be doing this. She won't be the only kid being bullied and if she can stop this now, there are others who will be safer as a result. Marg [/QUOTE]
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