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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 674673" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>It never ceases to amaze me how our d-cs always manage to find someone who will "help" them out. One thing I have learned is those who choose to help them, that's on them. Of course I feel bad if they get burned but it's their choice. I used to feel like I needed to warn everyone who came into my sons life but I realized that is not my place. I need to live for myself just as you need to live for yourself.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I know exactly how you feel. Years ago I put all the ornaments that were painful for me into a bag that stays in my ornament box. For me, it has gotten easier over the years. One of the hardest things for me was my mom had gifted to my son some heirloom ornaments and decorations which she wrote notes to my son with the intention that "someday" I would pass along to him these cherished items with the notes. My mom passed 17 years ago. I was with her when she passed away and my husband was with our son in court. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/cry.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":cry:" title="cry :cry:" data-shortname=":cry:" /> It can be hard for me when I'm going through the Christmas decorations and come across those special hand written notes from my mom. I do hope someday that I might be able to pass along these treasures to my son.</p><p>I made a decision a long time ago that I was not going to allow my son to ruin any more holidays, birthdays or any other type of celebration as I was no longer going to give him that power.</p><p>I love decorating my Christmas tree and my home for the holidays. I do it for me. I cherish the good memories and let go of the rest.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there!! You will get through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 674673, member: 18516"] It never ceases to amaze me how our d-cs always manage to find someone who will "help" them out. One thing I have learned is those who choose to help them, that's on them. Of course I feel bad if they get burned but it's their choice. I used to feel like I needed to warn everyone who came into my sons life but I realized that is not my place. I need to live for myself just as you need to live for yourself. I know exactly how you feel. Years ago I put all the ornaments that were painful for me into a bag that stays in my ornament box. For me, it has gotten easier over the years. One of the hardest things for me was my mom had gifted to my son some heirloom ornaments and decorations which she wrote notes to my son with the intention that "someday" I would pass along to him these cherished items with the notes. My mom passed 17 years ago. I was with her when she passed away and my husband was with our son in court. :cry: It can be hard for me when I'm going through the Christmas decorations and come across those special hand written notes from my mom. I do hope someday that I might be able to pass along these treasures to my son. I made a decision a long time ago that I was not going to allow my son to ruin any more holidays, birthdays or any other type of celebration as I was no longer going to give him that power. I love decorating my Christmas tree and my home for the holidays. I do it for me. I cherish the good memories and let go of the rest. Hang in there!! You will get through this. [/QUOTE]
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