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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 444841" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I can't even explain how much I wish I could think of something to say that would bring you comfort. This sounds really lame...but the best I can toss out is that you know where he is and he's not on the streets. I realize this is not too positive a note. I am genuinely sorry for your pain.</p><p></p><p>There is an element of Conduct Disorder that results in poor choices based on what the person sees as serving their independence and perceived best interests. It does not mean that the love of a parent isn't important. Sadly, it just means that the love of self dominates choices. In our experience there can be baby steps toward adulthood but they are so darn small and slow tht it is not easy to stay optimistic. Your son is still young. I'm sure that he thinks he is more mature than he is. Hang on to the hope that his life will turn around. It may not but it could. You seem to be a black and white thinker (believe it or not we basically are too) but some difficult child's and easy child/difficult child's live in the grey. So long as they live in that state there is a chance that they will positively evolve. Hang on to that hope but continue to build your life as peacefully as you can. As much as you love him (and there is no doubt about that!) he is the one who is in the driver's seat. I'll continue to hope and pray that he comes out on the positive side. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 444841, member: 35"] I can't even explain how much I wish I could think of something to say that would bring you comfort. This sounds really lame...but the best I can toss out is that you know where he is and he's not on the streets. I realize this is not too positive a note. I am genuinely sorry for your pain. There is an element of Conduct Disorder that results in poor choices based on what the person sees as serving their independence and perceived best interests. It does not mean that the love of a parent isn't important. Sadly, it just means that the love of self dominates choices. In our experience there can be baby steps toward adulthood but they are so darn small and slow tht it is not easy to stay optimistic. Your son is still young. I'm sure that he thinks he is more mature than he is. Hang on to the hope that his life will turn around. It may not but it could. You seem to be a black and white thinker (believe it or not we basically are too) but some difficult child's and easy child/difficult child's live in the grey. So long as they live in that state there is a chance that they will positively evolve. Hang on to that hope but continue to build your life as peacefully as you can. As much as you love him (and there is no doubt about that!) he is the one who is in the driver's seat. I'll continue to hope and pray that he comes out on the positive side. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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