Addicts feel not good enough. It's nobodys fault. It's how we perceive ourselves. Our problem is how we react to the our circuncircums not our circumstances. It is mental disorder, a sickness.
My only known remedy is the medicine I take through my ears at an AA or NA meeting. The answer to the overgrowth of the ego that is addiction is spiritual principles. I have to have them in my life by working the steps, by having a relationship with a higher power, and by being of service to other Alcoholics.
Addicts feel there is something inheritently wrong with them .I used to feel like I had these holes inside and I needed to fill them. I tried stuffing the holes with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, people - anything outside of myself. The answer was inside all along. The holes fill up with a power greater than ourselves and his/her/it's love. When I feel whole, there is no need and no desire to try to fix myself by hurting myself.