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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 420440"><p>I thought all kids had fun playing with the boxes. I don't recall what we got, just that the box was HUGE and I played with/in it like that until my parents finally tossed it.</p><p></p><p>Anyway... I'm not entirely certain how it manifests in my life. This is rather new to me as well, and I think my Dad is having an even more difficult time digesting it. I was always a picky eater, quirky, had problems socializing - things that are also very common in gifted kids, so it's always been presumed that was why. In retrospect I'm really wondering how close Aspie and gifted are. It wasn't until high school that I truly understood that most other people don't experience colors or emotions as temperatures, textures, flavors, scents. When I say "A situation doesn't taste/smell right to me," I mean it in a very literal way, because that's how I perceive it (also seen in gifted kids). If I say a perfume smells cold or hot, hard or soft, the same thing goes. All of it could be explained by the fact that I am gifted and have what's known as a super-sensitive nervous system. It can also be explained by Aspergers/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). A good percentage of the gifted kids I knew in school would also fall into these categories one way or another, and most of us were poor at socializing.</p><p>If I don't have a "learned response" to a situation, I tend to either freeze up or else say the absolutely wrong thing possible without realizing it until it's too late. I also tend to spend a lot of time in "Fantasyland" aka daydreaming. </p><p></p><p>In my daughter, I'll quote a small part of her report:</p><p>"[Kiddo] appears much less willing than most children to process emotional stimulation. Because of her aversion to becoming engaged in affectively charged situations, she is at risk for being socially and emotionally withdrawn. Reluctance to process affect does not preclude a child's being interested in and capable of forming attachments to other people. However, the emergence of strong feelings often leads children like her to break off an interpersonal interaction, and their aversion to emotionality may limit their social attractiveness. This finding is of particular concern in a person her age, because it suggests that she be avoiding or approaching with excessive caution the kinds of everyday interactions that are necessary for normative development in young people.</p><p></p><p>She shows an inconsistent and potentially maladaptive style of experiencing and expressing affect in which, at some times, she exerts more stringent control over her feelings than most young people this age and, at other times, she vents unmodulated affect (i.e. emotional outbursts) of considerable intensity. As a consequence, she may vacillate between periods of emotional calm, in which she appears more capable than her peers of showing stable and deeply felt emotions, and periods of emotional storm, in which she vents intense affect with little effort at self-restraint."</p><p></p><p>"Unmodulated affect of considerable intensity".... that's the nicest phrase I've ever heard for major temper tantrums, lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 420440"] I thought all kids had fun playing with the boxes. I don't recall what we got, just that the box was HUGE and I played with/in it like that until my parents finally tossed it. Anyway... I'm not entirely certain how it manifests in my life. This is rather new to me as well, and I think my Dad is having an even more difficult time digesting it. I was always a picky eater, quirky, had problems socializing - things that are also very common in gifted kids, so it's always been presumed that was why. In retrospect I'm really wondering how close Aspie and gifted are. It wasn't until high school that I truly understood that most other people don't experience colors or emotions as temperatures, textures, flavors, scents. When I say "A situation doesn't taste/smell right to me," I mean it in a very literal way, because that's how I perceive it (also seen in gifted kids). If I say a perfume smells cold or hot, hard or soft, the same thing goes. All of it could be explained by the fact that I am gifted and have what's known as a super-sensitive nervous system. It can also be explained by Aspergers/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). A good percentage of the gifted kids I knew in school would also fall into these categories one way or another, and most of us were poor at socializing. If I don't have a "learned response" to a situation, I tend to either freeze up or else say the absolutely wrong thing possible without realizing it until it's too late. I also tend to spend a lot of time in "Fantasyland" aka daydreaming. In my daughter, I'll quote a small part of her report: "[Kiddo] appears much less willing than most children to process emotional stimulation. Because of her aversion to becoming engaged in affectively charged situations, she is at risk for being socially and emotionally withdrawn. Reluctance to process affect does not preclude a child's being interested in and capable of forming attachments to other people. However, the emergence of strong feelings often leads children like her to break off an interpersonal interaction, and their aversion to emotionality may limit their social attractiveness. This finding is of particular concern in a person her age, because it suggests that she be avoiding or approaching with excessive caution the kinds of everyday interactions that are necessary for normative development in young people. She shows an inconsistent and potentially maladaptive style of experiencing and expressing affect in which, at some times, she exerts more stringent control over her feelings than most young people this age and, at other times, she vents unmodulated affect (i.e. emotional outbursts) of considerable intensity. As a consequence, she may vacillate between periods of emotional calm, in which she appears more capable than her peers of showing stable and deeply felt emotions, and periods of emotional storm, in which she vents intense affect with little effort at self-restraint." "Unmodulated affect of considerable intensity".... that's the nicest phrase I've ever heard for major temper tantrums, lol. [/QUOTE]
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