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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 584723" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. I also have a 35 year old son and, while his issues are not as severe as your sons, I am getting fed up with him going into middle age and still wanting mommy to fix it. I can tell you that if he wanted to move back home f or any reason, the answer from me would be "no." He isn't 22, he's 35. in my opinion you need to kick them out while they abuse their dangerous lifestyle in your home. They can stay at a homeless shelter or somewhere else...drug users are good at finding places to sleep. It's not a stable life, but YOU deserve a stable life in spite of your child's poor choices and unwillingness to grow up. </p><p>If he gets disability, he can probably apply for Section 8 housing. I am not sure you can stay in Section 8 if you are caught using drugs, but at his age IT IS HIS PROBLEM. in my opinion both are beyond counseling. If they go to counseling, that's good, but they can do that even if they don't live with you and they need more than counseling. When they are gone from your house, my g uess is they are doing drugs, maybe using and selling (when my daughter stopped her destructive drug use, she told me the story of druggies...if you USE you SELL. Period). </p><p>Do not give up the rest of your life to this middle aged man who never grew up. Yes, he's your son. Yes, you l ove him and wish things were different (I wish my son would grow up too). But you can't make him do it. That's on his shoulders and he doesn't seem all that willing.</p><p>Gentle hugs and good luck. Remember...YOU have a life too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 584723, member: 1550"] Hi there. I also have a 35 year old son and, while his issues are not as severe as your sons, I am getting fed up with him going into middle age and still wanting mommy to fix it. I can tell you that if he wanted to move back home f or any reason, the answer from me would be "no." He isn't 22, he's 35. in my opinion you need to kick them out while they abuse their dangerous lifestyle in your home. They can stay at a homeless shelter or somewhere else...drug users are good at finding places to sleep. It's not a stable life, but YOU deserve a stable life in spite of your child's poor choices and unwillingness to grow up. If he gets disability, he can probably apply for Section 8 housing. I am not sure you can stay in Section 8 if you are caught using drugs, but at his age IT IS HIS PROBLEM. in my opinion both are beyond counseling. If they go to counseling, that's good, but they can do that even if they don't live with you and they need more than counseling. When they are gone from your house, my g uess is they are doing drugs, maybe using and selling (when my daughter stopped her destructive drug use, she told me the story of druggies...if you USE you SELL. Period). Do not give up the rest of your life to this middle aged man who never grew up. Yes, he's your son. Yes, you l ove him and wish things were different (I wish my son would grow up too). But you can't make him do it. That's on his shoulders and he doesn't seem all that willing. Gentle hugs and good luck. Remember...YOU have a life too. [/QUOTE]
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