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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 129053" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I think for me, it would have to be based on how teacher approached me with it.</p><p> </p><p>Back when Travis was in the 4th grade he really began to fall apart in school. (makes sense, everything had suddenly gotten harder, and they started switching classrooms) We had some issues with personal space with other students, and issues with bullying.</p><p> </p><p>After about mid way into the year, and after Travis had finally admitted that ohter students were making his life heck, teacher responds with a lengthy letter stating her concerns with behaviors she is seeing in the classroom and interactions with Travis and his peers. Bottom line, she is extemely worried there is something really wrong with Travis that has been missed. (at that time his only diagnosis was the visual disability)</p><p> </p><p>I still have that letter tucked away in a file I keep for him.</p><p> </p><p>At the time, I wasn't ready to hear it. I was furious, and I became majorly defensive warrior Mom. Let's just say my response to the letter was less than pleasant. Teacher backed off. We compromised and worked together to come up with ways to help classmates understand Travis better.</p><p> </p><p>Fast forward a couple of years. That letter written by the 4th grade teacher is always in the back of my mind. There is no more question about the boy's issue as they've become much more pronounced as his peers pass him at the speed of light.</p><p> </p><p>I realize that 4th grade teacher may not have had all the right answers, but she was right something had been missed.</p><p> </p><p>And I began once again to go from doctor to doctor for evaluations and examinations. That's when the other dxes you see in my signature were added to the visual disabillity.</p><p> </p><p>I felt so bad for how I treated a teacher who had cared enough to try to communicate to me something that worried her with my child, that I wrote her a letter of apology and sent it to the school.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know why the teacher is thinking Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)? You might want to ask her what types of behaviors she's seeing that has her thinking along those lines.</p><p> </p><p>But depression she might be right about. He's behind and struggling, doesn't feel like he "fits". Doesn't seem like a too far out there assumpton to me.</p><p> </p><p>As for the seizures.... You can ask why she thinks so. Could be she's seen this before and has experience with it, therefore recognized it. Cuz I'll tell ya, Travis was having absence seizures for many years before a neighbor turned the light bulb on. And we had him checked.</p><p> </p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's easy to go on the defensive. Sometimes we need to stop and listen even to people without a medical degree because life experience has taught them valuable lessons we can benefit from. </p><p> </p><p>I'd say it took some guts for this teacher to put herself out there (knowing you could get defensive) and try to tell you what she is seeing in the classroom and what concerns her. I'd at least give her the consideration of listening to her at length and see what she has to say. She does, afterall, see difficult child daily in a completely different environment from the home setting.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 129053, member: 84"] I think for me, it would have to be based on how teacher approached me with it. Back when Travis was in the 4th grade he really began to fall apart in school. (makes sense, everything had suddenly gotten harder, and they started switching classrooms) We had some issues with personal space with other students, and issues with bullying. After about mid way into the year, and after Travis had finally admitted that ohter students were making his life heck, teacher responds with a lengthy letter stating her concerns with behaviors she is seeing in the classroom and interactions with Travis and his peers. Bottom line, she is extemely worried there is something really wrong with Travis that has been missed. (at that time his only diagnosis was the visual disability) I still have that letter tucked away in a file I keep for him. At the time, I wasn't ready to hear it. I was furious, and I became majorly defensive warrior Mom. Let's just say my response to the letter was less than pleasant. Teacher backed off. We compromised and worked together to come up with ways to help classmates understand Travis better. Fast forward a couple of years. That letter written by the 4th grade teacher is always in the back of my mind. There is no more question about the boy's issue as they've become much more pronounced as his peers pass him at the speed of light. I realize that 4th grade teacher may not have had all the right answers, but she was right something had been missed. And I began once again to go from doctor to doctor for evaluations and examinations. That's when the other dxes you see in my signature were added to the visual disabillity. I felt so bad for how I treated a teacher who had cared enough to try to communicate to me something that worried her with my child, that I wrote her a letter of apology and sent it to the school. I don't know why the teacher is thinking Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)? You might want to ask her what types of behaviors she's seeing that has her thinking along those lines. But depression she might be right about. He's behind and struggling, doesn't feel like he "fits". Doesn't seem like a too far out there assumpton to me. As for the seizures.... You can ask why she thinks so. Could be she's seen this before and has experience with it, therefore recognized it. Cuz I'll tell ya, Travis was having absence seizures for many years before a neighbor turned the light bulb on. And we had him checked. I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's easy to go on the defensive. Sometimes we need to stop and listen even to people without a medical degree because life experience has taught them valuable lessons we can benefit from. I'd say it took some guts for this teacher to put herself out there (knowing you could get defensive) and try to tell you what she is seeing in the classroom and what concerns her. I'd at least give her the consideration of listening to her at length and see what she has to say. She does, afterall, see difficult child daily in a completely different environment from the home setting. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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