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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 129092" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>TEachers deal with a LOT of kids with problems. thank you's teacher had FOUR children with Aspergers/Spectrum disorders in her room last year. She had a part time aide and that was it. She does tell me when she sees behavior that is a problem, but here any teacher who offered a diagnostic suggestion would be fired. All it takes is a parent to SAY it happened, then the teacher or someone else to corroborate. Even if the teacher is correct, our Superintendent is rabidly against this, in any form. (And with the University in town having an excellent education college he could literally replace EVERY teacher in a school almost overnight. Scary to me. But I don't like him.)</p><p> </p><p>It would be very very easy to be super angry at the teacher. She may or may not have overstepped boundaries. Is she following the IEP or not? If not, then probably this will be a problem. I think a nice note like the one above would be a good idea. She may not know all the help you have for difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like difficult child is really struggling hard. So maybe it is time for new evaluations. My son was in the psychiatric hospital before his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) was picked up on. It is NOT a side effect of medications, but we are lucky enough to have medications that work to help with it.</p><p> </p><p>At the very least it sounds like she cares. And wants him to have thehelp he needs. It would be good to have her on YOUR side, not owkeing against you. So a nice note, and then an IEP meeting would be good.</p><p> </p><p>I do know that long before many docs were dxing ADHD, my dad recognized it in some students. HE was a shop teacher - NO training in this. BUT he saw there was a problem and started pouring coffee or coke (at his own expense) into the high school kids (just a couple) AND he talked to their parents. This was in a ghetto school, and no one had health insurance, literally. He was able to help the child, as hte parent saw differences when the stimulant (caffeine) was in the child's system. They worked it out that Mom would pour several cups of coffee into him in the morning, then at lunch my dad would provide Coke or Mountain Dew or coffee. It really turned things around for 3 boys. If the young son of a family friend hadn't had this, and helped us learn about it, Dad would not have known enough to help.</p><p> </p><p>If you can take this as the teacher trying to help, then this may work out well.</p><p> </p><p>on the other hand, if she was really on the offensive, then I would have a hard time working with her, personally. We had a teacher in 1st grade tell me difficult child had conduct disorder and was a sociopath. And that we should just put him in an institution because NO WAY he would be able to live in society. He was NOT either of these things, and it made for a very very rough year. I had to go to the Superintendent several times because she kept telling other volunteers not to go near him as he was not worth helping. Lovely lady.</p><p> </p><p>Teachers are NOT in it for the $$$, they are there because they care. No other reason ANYONE would go into that field. Just not enough rewards, unless hugs and seeing children grow and learn are counted in. </p><p> </p><p>Sorry she upset you though.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 129092, member: 1233"] TEachers deal with a LOT of kids with problems. thank you's teacher had FOUR children with Aspergers/Spectrum disorders in her room last year. She had a part time aide and that was it. She does tell me when she sees behavior that is a problem, but here any teacher who offered a diagnostic suggestion would be fired. All it takes is a parent to SAY it happened, then the teacher or someone else to corroborate. Even if the teacher is correct, our Superintendent is rabidly against this, in any form. (And with the University in town having an excellent education college he could literally replace EVERY teacher in a school almost overnight. Scary to me. But I don't like him.) It would be very very easy to be super angry at the teacher. She may or may not have overstepped boundaries. Is she following the IEP or not? If not, then probably this will be a problem. I think a nice note like the one above would be a good idea. She may not know all the help you have for difficult child. It sounds like difficult child is really struggling hard. So maybe it is time for new evaluations. My son was in the psychiatric hospital before his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) was picked up on. It is NOT a side effect of medications, but we are lucky enough to have medications that work to help with it. At the very least it sounds like she cares. And wants him to have thehelp he needs. It would be good to have her on YOUR side, not owkeing against you. So a nice note, and then an IEP meeting would be good. I do know that long before many docs were dxing ADHD, my dad recognized it in some students. HE was a shop teacher - NO training in this. BUT he saw there was a problem and started pouring coffee or coke (at his own expense) into the high school kids (just a couple) AND he talked to their parents. This was in a ghetto school, and no one had health insurance, literally. He was able to help the child, as hte parent saw differences when the stimulant (caffeine) was in the child's system. They worked it out that Mom would pour several cups of coffee into him in the morning, then at lunch my dad would provide Coke or Mountain Dew or coffee. It really turned things around for 3 boys. If the young son of a family friend hadn't had this, and helped us learn about it, Dad would not have known enough to help. If you can take this as the teacher trying to help, then this may work out well. on the other hand, if she was really on the offensive, then I would have a hard time working with her, personally. We had a teacher in 1st grade tell me difficult child had conduct disorder and was a sociopath. And that we should just put him in an institution because NO WAY he would be able to live in society. He was NOT either of these things, and it made for a very very rough year. I had to go to the Superintendent several times because she kept telling other volunteers not to go near him as he was not worth helping. Lovely lady. Teachers are NOT in it for the $$$, they are there because they care. No other reason ANYONE would go into that field. Just not enough rewards, unless hugs and seeing children grow and learn are counted in. Sorry she upset you though. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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