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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 129356" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>This really does depend on how the teacher approached you over this. A teacher is NOT medically qualified and should not be making a diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>BUT teachers DO see a lot of different kids with different issues cross their paths and I feel should be listened to if they approach you and say, "I know your child already has a diagnosis, but has this been considered?" Or "I've noticed he tends to do this; I had a student once who seemed very similar, he had a diagnosis of...".</p><p>I really do not see anything wrong with that. On the contrary - I would welcome it.</p><p></p><p>It is a matter of degree. on the other hand, difficult child 3 had a teacher who INSISTED that his vomiting and nausea was entirely physical, her daughter had similar symptoms and doctors tried to say it was psychological but they found she had food sensitivities which careful diet dealt with. She was extremely insistent - I would report back that doctors were keeping on coming back to "extreme anxiety" and n physical cause had been found, and she would say, "Tell those doctors to talk to me, I've seen this kid go suddenly ashen in class, then have to rush outside. Tell them to ring me, I'll set them straight."</p><p></p><p>We spent most of the year he was in her class, getting difficult child 3 investigated, or having him home on sick leave because of "recurrent nausea and vomiting". I saw as much of her as I did, because I was collecting work sheets from her (never enough - interestingly he always worked much more efficiently at home) and trying to wean him back into the classroom.</p><p></p><p>It was in the last month of the school year that a doctor respectfully said, "You do realise - we have ruled out all possible physical causes. You've had him at the Allergy Clinic for months with no conclusive result. We've breath-tested him - no ulcer. He's had blood tests, ultrasounds, X-rays, counselling - and we do observe he is a very anxious, highly strung little boy. Why is it so hard to accept that extreme anxiety could be the cause?"</p><p>When I explained about the teacher being so emphatic, the doctor said what has been said here - "And her qualifications are...?"</p><p></p><p>While I had given credence to the teacher's suggestions, her determined insistence had really led us astray and wasted a lot of time and resources. I realised later that she had a strong vested interest in us finding a physical cause - she herself was a MAJOR factor in his anxiety response, she was mishandling him badly. She had a history of bullying him in the playground long before she ever agreed to teach his class. She had also taught easy child years ago and badly misjudged her as well. All in all - she is not a good teacher, she is also a lazy one and knows it. She also is in a strong position of control at the local school - she bullies the other staff as well. And she had successfully bullied me, although I recognise she was trying to help.</p><p></p><p>Amazingly, difficult child 3 adores her, as he does all his teachers. He values teachers I feel because they are repositories of learning. They have supplied his need for knowledge by providing him with lessons, with books, with information and a place to learn.</p><p></p><p>I also wonder about whether your son's diagnosis is fully explored. He seems to have quite a constellation of things which could perhaps be connected by dots not yet joined. I must admit, if I were his teacher I'd probably be diffidently suggesting a few questions for you to ask his doctors.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 129356, member: 1991"] This really does depend on how the teacher approached you over this. A teacher is NOT medically qualified and should not be making a diagnosis. BUT teachers DO see a lot of different kids with different issues cross their paths and I feel should be listened to if they approach you and say, "I know your child already has a diagnosis, but has this been considered?" Or "I've noticed he tends to do this; I had a student once who seemed very similar, he had a diagnosis of...". I really do not see anything wrong with that. On the contrary - I would welcome it. It is a matter of degree. on the other hand, difficult child 3 had a teacher who INSISTED that his vomiting and nausea was entirely physical, her daughter had similar symptoms and doctors tried to say it was psychological but they found she had food sensitivities which careful diet dealt with. She was extremely insistent - I would report back that doctors were keeping on coming back to "extreme anxiety" and n physical cause had been found, and she would say, "Tell those doctors to talk to me, I've seen this kid go suddenly ashen in class, then have to rush outside. Tell them to ring me, I'll set them straight." We spent most of the year he was in her class, getting difficult child 3 investigated, or having him home on sick leave because of "recurrent nausea and vomiting". I saw as much of her as I did, because I was collecting work sheets from her (never enough - interestingly he always worked much more efficiently at home) and trying to wean him back into the classroom. It was in the last month of the school year that a doctor respectfully said, "You do realise - we have ruled out all possible physical causes. You've had him at the Allergy Clinic for months with no conclusive result. We've breath-tested him - no ulcer. He's had blood tests, ultrasounds, X-rays, counselling - and we do observe he is a very anxious, highly strung little boy. Why is it so hard to accept that extreme anxiety could be the cause?" When I explained about the teacher being so emphatic, the doctor said what has been said here - "And her qualifications are...?" While I had given credence to the teacher's suggestions, her determined insistence had really led us astray and wasted a lot of time and resources. I realised later that she had a strong vested interest in us finding a physical cause - she herself was a MAJOR factor in his anxiety response, she was mishandling him badly. She had a history of bullying him in the playground long before she ever agreed to teach his class. She had also taught easy child years ago and badly misjudged her as well. All in all - she is not a good teacher, she is also a lazy one and knows it. She also is in a strong position of control at the local school - she bullies the other staff as well. And she had successfully bullied me, although I recognise she was trying to help. Amazingly, difficult child 3 adores her, as he does all his teachers. He values teachers I feel because they are repositories of learning. They have supplied his need for knowledge by providing him with lessons, with books, with information and a place to learn. I also wonder about whether your son's diagnosis is fully explored. He seems to have quite a constellation of things which could perhaps be connected by dots not yet joined. I must admit, if I were his teacher I'd probably be diffidently suggesting a few questions for you to ask his doctors. Marg [/QUOTE]
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