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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 593907" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>My worst mother's day was my first. Some good and important things arose from that day and it was totally my own fault, I made a bed and had to sleep on it, but awful nevertheless. difficult child was just out of hospital after scary and potentially deathly illness. During hospital stay husband had found out difficult child was not his biological son and I had cheated on him. He was going back and forth our flat and his parents house (they still lived in this house at the time and were building a new one nearby with the idea we would be moving here) and staying with us or getting divorce and contesting paternity. He had told his parents about it and also his siblings knew. I wanted to spend the day alone with difficult child and maybe visit my own mom, husband was going to Mother's Day brunch that has been a tradition in their family for ages. He made it a stipulation for me and difficult child to join him, if I wanted to continue having him in my life. He wasn't going to shy away from his family because his wife was a cheat.</p><p></p><p>That brunch was awful. None of husband's siblings really knowing what attitude to take with me. Pure hatred from mother in law, difficult child screaming all way through, because he had just recently understood that there were two kinds of people in the world; mom and dad and not-mom and dad. My own fault and all that, but goodness it was a terrible day.</p><p></p><p>Good thing was that it made me take a stance with husband. My son would not grow up in the environment there he was less than someone else. There would not be any in-between. I was sorry and understood it was horrible for him, but he had to choose either to be with me and difficult child totally or not to be. That if he left us, I did understood he would still be attached to difficult child and I would allow him to meet difficult child and be a nice guy who comes to play with him at times. But if he would choose to stay with us, there would not be any 'his kids' and 'not his kid' in our family. How well that has worked out is a different matter, but honestly I believe the bigger obstacle for husband and difficult child is that they are so very different people.</p><p></p><p>Nowadays my Mother's days really tend to be enjoyable. At the morning boys bring me breakfast to the bed - and come to bed with me and try to snatch most of it. They are smart enough to make enough for four but still it is usually hour long food fight. After that we clean up for that Mother's Day brunch, that are usually enjoyable too. Some yearly mother in law drama but husband's siblings are cool bunch. At afternoon husband takes us all to something enjoyable for whole family. Often to a sport event or to try some obscure sport. So all in all good time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 593907, member: 14557"] My worst mother's day was my first. Some good and important things arose from that day and it was totally my own fault, I made a bed and had to sleep on it, but awful nevertheless. difficult child was just out of hospital after scary and potentially deathly illness. During hospital stay husband had found out difficult child was not his biological son and I had cheated on him. He was going back and forth our flat and his parents house (they still lived in this house at the time and were building a new one nearby with the idea we would be moving here) and staying with us or getting divorce and contesting paternity. He had told his parents about it and also his siblings knew. I wanted to spend the day alone with difficult child and maybe visit my own mom, husband was going to Mother's Day brunch that has been a tradition in their family for ages. He made it a stipulation for me and difficult child to join him, if I wanted to continue having him in my life. He wasn't going to shy away from his family because his wife was a cheat. That brunch was awful. None of husband's siblings really knowing what attitude to take with me. Pure hatred from mother in law, difficult child screaming all way through, because he had just recently understood that there were two kinds of people in the world; mom and dad and not-mom and dad. My own fault and all that, but goodness it was a terrible day. Good thing was that it made me take a stance with husband. My son would not grow up in the environment there he was less than someone else. There would not be any in-between. I was sorry and understood it was horrible for him, but he had to choose either to be with me and difficult child totally or not to be. That if he left us, I did understood he would still be attached to difficult child and I would allow him to meet difficult child and be a nice guy who comes to play with him at times. But if he would choose to stay with us, there would not be any 'his kids' and 'not his kid' in our family. How well that has worked out is a different matter, but honestly I believe the bigger obstacle for husband and difficult child is that they are so very different people. Nowadays my Mother's days really tend to be enjoyable. At the morning boys bring me breakfast to the bed - and come to bed with me and try to snatch most of it. They are smart enough to make enough for four but still it is usually hour long food fight. After that we clean up for that Mother's Day brunch, that are usually enjoyable too. Some yearly mother in law drama but husband's siblings are cool bunch. At afternoon husband takes us all to something enjoyable for whole family. Often to a sport event or to try some obscure sport. So all in all good time. [/QUOTE]
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