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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 357679" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I don't like Mother's Day (Or my birthday or the part of Christmas that people think they need to give me anything). It seems all so phony to me (I must have secretly been born to the religious groups that don't celebrate birthdays or holidays because I totally understand why). I hate that my family asks me what I want and then tries to fullfill it. I do not want something expected - I do not want my desires filled - I want them to give from their heart - something they would like me to have. That is a lot more meaningful than filling a wish list. No joy opening something you KNOW you are going to get because they asked you what you wanted.</p><p></p><p>For years and years I have been telling my family that I do not want anything and I whole heartly mean it. Why should I get treated any different just because a day has a title? I don't want to be treated like crap every other day of the year and just because it is my birthday or Mother's Day these kids decide they have to be nice? No, if you want to give me the gift of being nice, I want it EVERY day. Once I get treated with respect EVERY day, then we can think about how to celebrate the "special" days.</p><p></p><p>I have a feeling however that this year's Mother's Day just might (emphasis on "might") be special because Diva now has the means on her own to give me something. She gave me an awesome photo frame for my birthday that stated "mothers are those who can take the place of all others" (or something like that). With what the two of us have gone through, she is NOT going to give me anything just because it is the day and she has to. She really will give something meaningful because SHE wants to, not because she has to. We are at the point that if I get anything from her it is a sign that our relationship is healing and strengthening.</p><p></p><p>This year, we have had a great year! Everything is going very well for all of us and I don't mind a little bit of celebrating because of that (just don't put the spot light too brightly on me).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 357679, member: 5096"] I don't like Mother's Day (Or my birthday or the part of Christmas that people think they need to give me anything). It seems all so phony to me (I must have secretly been born to the religious groups that don't celebrate birthdays or holidays because I totally understand why). I hate that my family asks me what I want and then tries to fullfill it. I do not want something expected - I do not want my desires filled - I want them to give from their heart - something they would like me to have. That is a lot more meaningful than filling a wish list. No joy opening something you KNOW you are going to get because they asked you what you wanted. For years and years I have been telling my family that I do not want anything and I whole heartly mean it. Why should I get treated any different just because a day has a title? I don't want to be treated like crap every other day of the year and just because it is my birthday or Mother's Day these kids decide they have to be nice? No, if you want to give me the gift of being nice, I want it EVERY day. Once I get treated with respect EVERY day, then we can think about how to celebrate the "special" days. I have a feeling however that this year's Mother's Day just might (emphasis on "might") be special because Diva now has the means on her own to give me something. She gave me an awesome photo frame for my birthday that stated "mothers are those who can take the place of all others" (or something like that). With what the two of us have gone through, she is NOT going to give me anything just because it is the day and she has to. She really will give something meaningful because SHE wants to, not because she has to. We are at the point that if I get anything from her it is a sign that our relationship is healing and strengthening. This year, we have had a great year! Everything is going very well for all of us and I don't mind a little bit of celebrating because of that (just don't put the spot light too brightly on me). [/QUOTE]
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