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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 120584" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I hate to say this. I went to a support group for people who had kids/adult children with aspergers or High-Functioning Autism (HFA). MANY of them said their kids just could not handle one or more of the sensory issues in showering or bathing. For many, the shampoo and soap felt slimy and they just couldn't take it. It pretty much broke my heart to hear a couple in their late 70's talk about having to herd their adult daughter into the shower and help her. It took both parents, and they were both upset that the dad had to see his daughter undressed. daughter did not care, but it upset them. Their other adult kids would NOT help, and they were very fearful of what would happen when they died. It really hit home. </p><p></p><p>Nearly every parent in the group talked about this. One mom had her daughter come from her group home twice a week and get her hair washed. Child just could not handle the texture of the shampoo, or the feeling of it going through her hair. REally creeped her out, but she would let her mom wash it in the kitchen sink.</p><p></p><p>I think many of us struggle with this. Would the presoaped baby washcloths that are disposable help? I know sometimes thank you is really having a bad sensory day and it helps him. They are in the baby section. Otherwise, would soap on a bath puff, or a bar of his fav soap (let him sniff them in the store, even at a place like Bath and Body Works to find a scent he likes?j) sewn into a washcloth help?</p><p></p><p>Otherwise, would a showerhead with different sprays help? I know each of my kids has a different preference. But now we have the "can't get him out" problem with thank you. He has discovered body wash made with real lavender essential oil. And LOVES it.</p><p></p><p>I am just reaching for solutions. I do know, long before I really knew what we were doing, I did give 2 warnings, then you did it MY way. It wasn't the best way, but I was at my wit's end. I would give warning 1 - a request to go get your bath. Then 2 - a firmer directive. 3 didn't happen, if it came to 3, then you did it MY way. I still remember the shock when I dumped difficult child into the shower with all his clothes on. REALLY hated it, but he remembered after about 3 of these that the feel of wet clothes was worse than the feel of the bath or shower. </p><p></p><p>I don't recommend this, but I did it out of pressure from the school, my parents, and absolute frustration. I was calm while I did it. I think if I had been angry or yelling it would have been a bigger mistake.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, I know this has to drive you crazy!</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 120584, member: 1233"] I hate to say this. I went to a support group for people who had kids/adult children with aspergers or High-Functioning Autism (HFA). MANY of them said their kids just could not handle one or more of the sensory issues in showering or bathing. For many, the shampoo and soap felt slimy and they just couldn't take it. It pretty much broke my heart to hear a couple in their late 70's talk about having to herd their adult daughter into the shower and help her. It took both parents, and they were both upset that the dad had to see his daughter undressed. daughter did not care, but it upset them. Their other adult kids would NOT help, and they were very fearful of what would happen when they died. It really hit home. Nearly every parent in the group talked about this. One mom had her daughter come from her group home twice a week and get her hair washed. Child just could not handle the texture of the shampoo, or the feeling of it going through her hair. REally creeped her out, but she would let her mom wash it in the kitchen sink. I think many of us struggle with this. Would the presoaped baby washcloths that are disposable help? I know sometimes thank you is really having a bad sensory day and it helps him. They are in the baby section. Otherwise, would soap on a bath puff, or a bar of his fav soap (let him sniff them in the store, even at a place like Bath and Body Works to find a scent he likes?j) sewn into a washcloth help? Otherwise, would a showerhead with different sprays help? I know each of my kids has a different preference. But now we have the "can't get him out" problem with thank you. He has discovered body wash made with real lavender essential oil. And LOVES it. I am just reaching for solutions. I do know, long before I really knew what we were doing, I did give 2 warnings, then you did it MY way. It wasn't the best way, but I was at my wit's end. I would give warning 1 - a request to go get your bath. Then 2 - a firmer directive. 3 didn't happen, if it came to 3, then you did it MY way. I still remember the shock when I dumped difficult child into the shower with all his clothes on. REALLY hated it, but he remembered after about 3 of these that the feel of wet clothes was worse than the feel of the bath or shower. I don't recommend this, but I did it out of pressure from the school, my parents, and absolute frustration. I was calm while I did it. I think if I had been angry or yelling it would have been a bigger mistake. Hugs, I know this has to drive you crazy! Susie [/QUOTE]
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