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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 608305" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>RE, I can sorta understand her post on Facebook. I also want someone to just say everything will be okay. I never had that as a child or even an adult from my mother. In fact, she went out of her way to try to make everything not okay for me. It took quite awhile for my Dad to believe that I was worthy of his help. I tried very hard to not take advantage of that and I think that made him believe in me even more. One really funny thing with my dad was he always "loaned" us the money for something but as soon as we paid him back he sent the money right back to us. I think only once in all the times he helped us did he actually keep the money and that was when my mom died and I had absolutely no money to do anything. He paid to cremate her but took the money as we paid him back. I guess I dont blame him there. He did divorce her almost 24/25 years before so she was really my problem. </p><p></p><p>I think because I didnt have the ideal upbringing it does make me want to do more to save my kids. The middle one needs next to nothing now. We have only had to bail him out of a predicament twice in his adult life and those problems werent his fault. The military lost his pay once (Im telling you he handled it far better than I would have!) and the other time he had made the really stupid decision to pawn a car off on his brother that didnt run. He thought Cory could figure out how to get it fixed and pay him back the last grand he owed on it. Ha! I paid that off. </p><p></p><p>Personally I dont know if my oldest will ever leave home. I should probably put my foot down and make him but I doubt we will. I keep hoping this girl he likes will decide they should be together but she seems to be a bit of a difficult child in that regards. She was in the military for years and cant make a decision on her own to save her life! Astounds me. And we all know Cory will always be an issue for us. </p><p></p><p>Speaking of difficult child's and issues, we have been in touch with some people to get life insurance on him. That might not be a bad idea for parents of difficult child's with issues that could leave them in danger or are physically/emotionally disabled. You just never know and we dont want to be caught with our pants down. I found a decent policy with my auto insurance for 30K whole life. I like the idea of that because if something really came up we could borrow against it after a few years. Plus if something did happen to him, because we do cremation, it wouldnt cost all that much and we could split the rest between the girls in a trust for their college educations. </p><p></p><p>*Boy Im morbid today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 608305, member: 1514"] RE, I can sorta understand her post on Facebook. I also want someone to just say everything will be okay. I never had that as a child or even an adult from my mother. In fact, she went out of her way to try to make everything not okay for me. It took quite awhile for my Dad to believe that I was worthy of his help. I tried very hard to not take advantage of that and I think that made him believe in me even more. One really funny thing with my dad was he always "loaned" us the money for something but as soon as we paid him back he sent the money right back to us. I think only once in all the times he helped us did he actually keep the money and that was when my mom died and I had absolutely no money to do anything. He paid to cremate her but took the money as we paid him back. I guess I dont blame him there. He did divorce her almost 24/25 years before so she was really my problem. I think because I didnt have the ideal upbringing it does make me want to do more to save my kids. The middle one needs next to nothing now. We have only had to bail him out of a predicament twice in his adult life and those problems werent his fault. The military lost his pay once (Im telling you he handled it far better than I would have!) and the other time he had made the really stupid decision to pawn a car off on his brother that didnt run. He thought Cory could figure out how to get it fixed and pay him back the last grand he owed on it. Ha! I paid that off. Personally I dont know if my oldest will ever leave home. I should probably put my foot down and make him but I doubt we will. I keep hoping this girl he likes will decide they should be together but she seems to be a bit of a difficult child in that regards. She was in the military for years and cant make a decision on her own to save her life! Astounds me. And we all know Cory will always be an issue for us. Speaking of difficult child's and issues, we have been in touch with some people to get life insurance on him. That might not be a bad idea for parents of difficult child's with issues that could leave them in danger or are physically/emotionally disabled. You just never know and we dont want to be caught with our pants down. I found a decent policy with my auto insurance for 30K whole life. I like the idea of that because if something really came up we could borrow against it after a few years. Plus if something did happen to him, because we do cremation, it wouldnt cost all that much and we could split the rest between the girls in a trust for their college educations. *Boy Im morbid today. [/QUOTE]
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