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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 608408" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thank you Janet, MWM, MrMike and Cedar...........your words mean a lot to me.</p><p></p><p>A friend of my daughter's wrote on her FB page in response to her statement about wanting someone to say everything will be okay............that she "had a lot of pain to deal with but you are not trying to help yourself, only you can make the changes, love your life, get out of this town or be miserable forever." </p><p></p><p>I thought he summed it up well. </p><p></p><p>I've kept my mother's curiosity in check, I don't ask anything so I don't know if she is still at her old place, in her car or if she has moved. I caught a cold, so I haven't felt well for the last couple of days, laying low over the weekend. Not knowing is difficult at times, however, it feels appropriate to keep this distance at this point. </p><p></p><p>Last night I watched this documentary called Happy, about research done on happy people all over the world.........what the components are that make up being happy. The research shows that happy people are not different, they respond to life's joy and tragedy, they feel pain.........they move through it and go on. It brought to mind all of us here on this forum, struggling with the choices of our adult kids............or our little kids and the issues they have.............and how it can take over our lives, bring unending suffering.............or, we can move through it, learn from it, make different choices and still maintain our happiness. </p><p></p><p>I thought of this seminar I took years ago where the facilitator asked us in the audience what made us happy. One guy said "I will be happy when I can liquidate all my resources and come up with a million dollars." The facilitator asked him if he was happy now. The guy said, "no, because I don't have the million dollars yet." Another guy said, "I'm happy when I wake up and I'm above ground." We all laughed. The facilitator asked him if he was happy now. You could see that he was, his face was filled with a lightness and joy. He said a resounding YES. The other guy, who needed the million, looked tense and worried. It was one of those moments in life where I had a big AH HA moment..............happiness is an inside job!!</p><p></p><p>I may be a tad weary right now, the cold, the continuing adventures of my difficult child.........heading out to work........but geez, sure feels better to be<em> happy to be above ground...........</em>..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 608408, member: 13542"] Thank you Janet, MWM, MrMike and Cedar...........your words mean a lot to me. A friend of my daughter's wrote on her FB page in response to her statement about wanting someone to say everything will be okay............that she "had a lot of pain to deal with but you are not trying to help yourself, only you can make the changes, love your life, get out of this town or be miserable forever." I thought he summed it up well. I've kept my mother's curiosity in check, I don't ask anything so I don't know if she is still at her old place, in her car or if she has moved. I caught a cold, so I haven't felt well for the last couple of days, laying low over the weekend. Not knowing is difficult at times, however, it feels appropriate to keep this distance at this point. Last night I watched this documentary called Happy, about research done on happy people all over the world.........what the components are that make up being happy. The research shows that happy people are not different, they respond to life's joy and tragedy, they feel pain.........they move through it and go on. It brought to mind all of us here on this forum, struggling with the choices of our adult kids............or our little kids and the issues they have.............and how it can take over our lives, bring unending suffering.............or, we can move through it, learn from it, make different choices and still maintain our happiness. I thought of this seminar I took years ago where the facilitator asked us in the audience what made us happy. One guy said "I will be happy when I can liquidate all my resources and come up with a million dollars." The facilitator asked him if he was happy now. The guy said, "no, because I don't have the million dollars yet." Another guy said, "I'm happy when I wake up and I'm above ground." We all laughed. The facilitator asked him if he was happy now. You could see that he was, his face was filled with a lightness and joy. He said a resounding YES. The other guy, who needed the million, looked tense and worried. It was one of those moments in life where I had a big AH HA moment..............happiness is an inside job!! I may be a tad weary right now, the cold, the continuing adventures of my difficult child.........heading out to work........but geez, sure feels better to be[I] happy to be above ground...........[/I].. [/QUOTE]
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