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So very drained! I am so sorry that this happened especially before your trip. It’s interesting. My son who thrives on chaos would often act out even more before a big event, or trip. And too many times I would cancel plans. It didn’t help myself or him. I am not sure why your son lost his job but he owns that, not you. I understand that you giving him money to help with rent will alleviate your anxiety short term. How about letting him know that you are prepared to assist for x number of weeks but after that he is on his own. That will give him time to apply for other jobs, get his stuff together etc. that will give you a short reprieve so that you can go and enjoy this much needed vacation with your husband and daughter and son in law. Then when you come back you can see where things are at and go from there. My therapist helped me realize that while I can worry, only allow myself 10 minutes of worry and then go on with my day. We can train our brains to do this. At the end of the day we need to love ourselves more. Take that trip and enjoy! Try not to talk about the issues During the trip. It will only hijack everyone. Go and set yourself free! You are so worth it! Hugs!

<blockquote data-quote="Fairy dust" data-source="post: 766557" data-attributes="member: 25457"><p>So very drained! I am so sorry that this happened especially before your trip. It’s interesting. My son who thrives on chaos would often act out even more before a big event, or trip.&nbsp; And too many times I would cancel plans. It didn’t help myself or him. I am not sure why your son lost his job but he owns that, not you. I understand that you giving him money to help with rent will alleviate your anxiety short term.&nbsp; How about letting him know that you are prepared to assist for x number of weeks but after that he is on his own. That will give him time to apply for other jobs, get his stuff together etc. that will give you a short reprieve so that you can go and enjoy this much needed vacation with your husband and daughter and son in law. Then when you come back you can see where things are at and go from there.&nbsp; My therapist helped me realize that while I can worry, only allow myself 10 minutes of worry and then go on with my day. We can train our brains to do this. At the end of the day we need to love ourselves more. Take that trip and enjoy!&nbsp; Try not to talk about the issues During the trip. It will only hijack everyone.&nbsp; Go&nbsp; and set yourself free! You are so worth it! Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Fairy dust, post: 766557, member: 25457"] So very drained! I am so sorry that this happened especially before your trip. It’s interesting. My son who thrives on chaos would often act out even more before a big event, or trip. And too many times I would cancel plans. It didn’t help myself or him. I am not sure why your son lost his job but he owns that, not you. I understand that you giving him money to help with rent will alleviate your anxiety short term. How about letting him know that you are prepared to assist for x number of weeks but after that he is on his own. That will give him time to apply for other jobs, get his stuff together etc. that will give you a short reprieve so that you can go and enjoy this much needed vacation with your husband and daughter and son in law. Then when you come back you can see where things are at and go from there. My therapist helped me realize that while I can worry, only allow myself 10 minutes of worry and then go on with my day. We can train our brains to do this. At the end of the day we need to love ourselves more. Take that trip and enjoy! Try not to talk about the issues During the trip. It will only hijack everyone. Go and set yourself free! You are so worth it! Hugs! [/QUOTE]

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