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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 621330" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If your son cares one wit about you, dad will not be capable of influencing him. If he can it's on your son. He doesn't have to buy it. Your son is already not in your corner. He is in HIS corner (his own) believing that he attacked you because you MADE him do it and that you are the bad guy. It is not just you...difficult children are like this...usually self-centered, unwilling to look at themselves, refusing to take responsibility for the things they do, easily ready to discard anything/everything we have done to show our love and caring for umpteen years, and just NOT NICE. So you have two difficult children ganging up against you as your father is just an old difficult child. Age is not a factor here.</p><p></p><p>You did the right thing NOT reading the letter. And I'm glad you told him you'll get a restraining order against him if he contacts you again.</p><p></p><p>This isn't something we like to think about, but our parents can not live forever. Then who will your difficult child have to crucify you with?</p><p></p><p>This is a lose/lose for difficult child.</p><p></p><p>This is a big win for you in your attempt to take your power back. Honestly, with all the times my father disinherited me, I wish I'd said YEARS AGO what I said this year. He is 90. Yes, it took me this long to think about saying it. "Dad, it's your money. You can do what you want with it. But you can't control me by threatening to cut me off. If you do, I'll still be fine." He hasn't said it since and I truly don't care what he does with his dern money. As for my difficult child, I talk to 36 when he is being nice, and sometimes he is nice. The minute he turns nasty, the phone goes *click*. and he has to wait until the next day to contact me again because I won't answer the phone or read his texts and he knows it. I have warned him I will do this if he swears, disrespects me, or makes ridiculous demands. I hear from him less, but when I do, it's usually at least pleasant half the time.</p><p></p><p>Have a peaceful, serene day and know, in your heart, you did what you had to do for yourself and most of us, I think, believe it was very right!!!! Hugs!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 621330, member: 1550"] If your son cares one wit about you, dad will not be capable of influencing him. If he can it's on your son. He doesn't have to buy it. Your son is already not in your corner. He is in HIS corner (his own) believing that he attacked you because you MADE him do it and that you are the bad guy. It is not just you...difficult children are like this...usually self-centered, unwilling to look at themselves, refusing to take responsibility for the things they do, easily ready to discard anything/everything we have done to show our love and caring for umpteen years, and just NOT NICE. So you have two difficult children ganging up against you as your father is just an old difficult child. Age is not a factor here. You did the right thing NOT reading the letter. And I'm glad you told him you'll get a restraining order against him if he contacts you again. This isn't something we like to think about, but our parents can not live forever. Then who will your difficult child have to crucify you with? This is a lose/lose for difficult child. This is a big win for you in your attempt to take your power back. Honestly, with all the times my father disinherited me, I wish I'd said YEARS AGO what I said this year. He is 90. Yes, it took me this long to think about saying it. "Dad, it's your money. You can do what you want with it. But you can't control me by threatening to cut me off. If you do, I'll still be fine." He hasn't said it since and I truly don't care what he does with his dern money. As for my difficult child, I talk to 36 when he is being nice, and sometimes he is nice. The minute he turns nasty, the phone goes *click*. and he has to wait until the next day to contact me again because I won't answer the phone or read his texts and he knows it. I have warned him I will do this if he swears, disrespects me, or makes ridiculous demands. I hear from him less, but when I do, it's usually at least pleasant half the time. Have a peaceful, serene day and know, in your heart, you did what you had to do for yourself and most of us, I think, believe it was very right!!!! Hugs!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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