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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 649733" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Sorry that you took what I was saying as though you are taking advantage of your husband - that is NOT what I meant. I truly am sorry it came out this way. What I meant is Jabber AND YOU are the good guys. He could have married someone without a child but he chose to take the two of you on as a package deal. (and that is always an expensive choice for whoever does it) What else I was trying to say is that your husband is one of the good ones. Obviously if he didn't love you, he wouldn't do what he does for you or your son. What I am trying to say is at some point it is when you feel you weak and don't want to and NO think of what this other person in your life has done and who is deserving of YOU and who is not. </p><p>I married a man who helped me finish raising my child and I feel lucky to have married that kind of man. I don't feel that takes away anything from my own self-esteem or from how I feel about myself. I don't think I owe mine either. But I am grateful and I am thankful so I put my husband's needs and wants ABOVE Difficult Child's. Maybe you don't want to understand that when you take money out of a pocket and SPEND IT (the bio-dads for not having to pay) because it would mean, yes, you need to stop spending money on Difficult Child. </p><p>Notice no one anywhere here is telling you to go NC with your son - mostly we are trying to get through to you that you are just throwing good money after bad.</p><p>Math again (you are so to the letter - to scoot past the point) Say rent (OK Cellphone doesn't count as money spent by you guys <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite11" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll Eyes :rolleyes:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":rolleyes:" />) $285 x 6 (months) x 4% interest x number of years until retirement. (after already paid college, another apartment and a car - oh and the value of money/items he stole</p><p></p><p>It is however ironic that you are giving this argument while the rent for Difficult Child's apartment is in Jabbers name????? And you wanted to give more money (bus pass and food) but were able to hold yourself back with your husbands help. You need to stop squandering money on your son and think of yourself as a couple first IS THE POINT!</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/backingout.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":backingout:" title="backingout :backingout:" data-shortname=":backingout:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 649733, member: 18366"] Sorry that you took what I was saying as though you are taking advantage of your husband - that is NOT what I meant. I truly am sorry it came out this way. What I meant is Jabber AND YOU are the good guys. He could have married someone without a child but he chose to take the two of you on as a package deal. (and that is always an expensive choice for whoever does it) What else I was trying to say is that your husband is one of the good ones. Obviously if he didn't love you, he wouldn't do what he does for you or your son. What I am trying to say is at some point it is when you feel you weak and don't want to and NO think of what this other person in your life has done and who is deserving of YOU and who is not. I married a man who helped me finish raising my child and I feel lucky to have married that kind of man. I don't feel that takes away anything from my own self-esteem or from how I feel about myself. I don't think I owe mine either. But I am grateful and I am thankful so I put my husband's needs and wants ABOVE Difficult Child's. Maybe you don't want to understand that when you take money out of a pocket and SPEND IT (the bio-dads for not having to pay) because it would mean, yes, you need to stop spending money on Difficult Child. Notice no one anywhere here is telling you to go NC with your son - mostly we are trying to get through to you that you are just throwing good money after bad. Math again (you are so to the letter - to scoot past the point) Say rent (OK Cellphone doesn't count as money spent by you guys :rolleyes:) $285 x 6 (months) x 4% interest x number of years until retirement. (after already paid college, another apartment and a car - oh and the value of money/items he stole It is however ironic that you are giving this argument while the rent for Difficult Child's apartment is in Jabbers name????? And you wanted to give more money (bus pass and food) but were able to hold yourself back with your husbands help. You need to stop squandering money on your son and think of yourself as a couple first IS THE POINT! :backingout: [/QUOTE]
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