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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 649746" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /> I do have to admit, when Jabber and I got married, money was an issue that was discussed pretty thoroughly. Not the cost of raising a kid. No...my ex had pretty much bankrupted me. In fact, the only reason there was no <em>actual</em> bankruptcy was because I was a lawyer and I bluffed the creditors into not suing me. But I owed thousands. I distinctly remember him coming in one night to find me crying after some creditor or other had written or called and telling him, "I can't marry you! I can't put this burden on you!"</p><p> </p><p>He, of course, did the thing Jabber does best...held me and wiped my tears and told me not to be silly because he'd take me however he could get me and he didn't care about the money I owed. - Yeah...I get a little teary just typing that.</p><p> </p><p>Another time I told him marriage wouldn't work if I couldn't be in charge of all the money and paying all the bills. His response? "Oh Thank God! I hate paying the bills!" <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite11" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll Eyes :rolleyes:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":rolleyes:" /> We had two accounts for years...the main account where both of our paychecks went and I had pretty much the only access to...and his account where $200 per paycheck (2x/mo) went which was his gas, lunch, "mad-money" account. After a few years I got sick to death of paying the bills, finally grasped that he wasn't going to spend me into the dirt, and told him to take over.</p><p> </p><p>We also had an agreement we keep to this day...that neither of us would spend more than $50.00 on any non-essential purchase without discussing it first. He broke that one once. I "gently" reminded him of it and he returned the item...which he got for Xmas. lol...</p><p> </p><p>That man has a patience of a saint where I'm concerned. I really don't deserve him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>Oh...and I have to mention...he took half his account and put it aside into a secret investment account - for the sole purpose of taking me on vacation anywhere I wanted to go for our 10th anniversary...which is how we went to Rome. How amazing is that man?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 649746, member: 17309"] :redface: I do have to admit, when Jabber and I got married, money was an issue that was discussed pretty thoroughly. Not the cost of raising a kid. No...my ex had pretty much bankrupted me. In fact, the only reason there was no [I]actual[/I] bankruptcy was because I was a lawyer and I bluffed the creditors into not suing me. But I owed thousands. I distinctly remember him coming in one night to find me crying after some creditor or other had written or called and telling him, "I can't marry you! I can't put this burden on you!" He, of course, did the thing Jabber does best...held me and wiped my tears and told me not to be silly because he'd take me however he could get me and he didn't care about the money I owed. - Yeah...I get a little teary just typing that. Another time I told him marriage wouldn't work if I couldn't be in charge of all the money and paying all the bills. His response? "Oh Thank God! I hate paying the bills!" :rolleyes: We had two accounts for years...the main account where both of our paychecks went and I had pretty much the only access to...and his account where $200 per paycheck (2x/mo) went which was his gas, lunch, "mad-money" account. After a few years I got sick to death of paying the bills, finally grasped that he wasn't going to spend me into the dirt, and told him to take over. We also had an agreement we keep to this day...that neither of us would spend more than $50.00 on any non-essential purchase without discussing it first. He broke that one once. I "gently" reminded him of it and he returned the item...which he got for Xmas. lol... That man has a patience of a saint where I'm concerned. I really don't deserve him. :) Oh...and I have to mention...he took half his account and put it aside into a secret investment account - for the sole purpose of taking me on vacation anywhere I wanted to go for our 10th anniversary...which is how we went to Rome. How amazing is that man? [/QUOTE]
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