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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 222149" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p><em>I meant i dont' spend quality time with her when she's supposed to be sleeping. I dont' draw with her at 2 a.m. or sing with her or jump with her. Besides that,</em> </p><p> </p><p>Ohhhh. I get it.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p><em>If I try to contain her, which I try to do two nights a week when boyfriend's kids are home it's a nightmare situation. She wakes the other kids, she screams, sings, jumps, dances climbs, you name it!! oh my ..........!!!!</em> </p><p> </p><p>That sounds like my difficult child when he was about 4. He was LOUD! He was actually pretty good from about 4 mo's to 11 mo's. Then he learned to clilmb out of the crib and I had to move him to a real bed. Sigh. Too bad he had a wood floor or I would have let him fall on his noggin a few times to learn natural consequences! </p><p> </p><p><em>Here's my deal, I don't want to leave her alone because I don't trust her. ...She does odd things, and i don't want to run the risk of leaving her alone and waking to her doing something destructive.</em></p><p> </p><p>Is she susceptible to suggestions such as "if you do xyz in the middle of the night, abc will happen"?</p><p> </p><p> </p><p><em>during day especially weekends i've been trying this new thing someone gave me an idea here about. I'll say ok difficult child i'm going to go and i pick something i'm going to do alone, it could be as simple as go into the bathroom lol, but when i come out we'll do this together.</em> </p><p> </p><p>Excellent!</p><p> </p><p><em>difficult child is able to channel really well at night yet every now and again and unsafe thing will occur, either with food she touches or huge kitchen scissors of knives, etc. (note to self hide knives).</em> </p><p> </p><p>Yes, we hid the knives and scissors for a long time. I also put away several fragile collections ... I thought once the dogs were old enough and stopped chewing, I could put the items back on display, but then difficult child was the one who ended up being destructive. If it's not one thing, it's another! </p><p> </p><p>I have to say, now that we've gotten past the match- and fire-lighting stage, and the knife- and scissors stage, we're onto other things. Just when you think you've figured it all out, they come up with-another behavior.</p><p> </p><p><em>As far as the manic carp and sleeplessness she's not anxiety ridden she's happy ready to go, she could run a mile, paint a house, draw a picasso.</em> </p><p> </p><p>Hmm. Maybe you could put that to good use, but you said you don't want her having the run of the house. I'm thinking you could suggest that she really DO a Picasso, for ex, as a gift for someone. On one hand, it will keep her quiet. on the other hand, it will not get her to sleep.</p><p> </p><p>Also, I'm thinking I'd tell my difficult child, "If you're going to be awake at 2 a.m., you may as well be doing the laundry." Then I'd stand there with-MY hands on MY hips and say, "Well, I guess THAT idea isn't working!" LOL.</p><p>But really, I have done similar things and the threat of real work makes him go back to his room, at least.</p><p> </p><p><em>Now granted i'd much rather have a ridiculously happy kid up and bouncing about than where we were last year with her hysterical crying every night for hours </em></p><p> </p><p>Definitely. But lack of sleep is still lack of sleep. Have you tried asking a therapist for ideas? I can't remember if you put that in an older note. (Sorry.)</p><p> </p><p><em>as they grow and the hormones kick in the behaviors change. That is why i'm so against allowing this mania to go thru the nights,</em> </p><p> </p><p>I hear you!</p><p> </p><p>You've removed dyes and food colors, and caffeine, right? I'm probably just clutching at straws ...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 222149, member: 3419"] [I]I meant i dont' spend quality time with her when she's supposed to be sleeping. I dont' draw with her at 2 a.m. or sing with her or jump with her. Besides that,[/I] Ohhhh. I get it. [I]If I try to contain her, which I try to do two nights a week when boyfriend's kids are home it's a nightmare situation. She wakes the other kids, she screams, sings, jumps, dances climbs, you name it!! oh my ..........!!!![/I] That sounds like my difficult child when he was about 4. He was LOUD! He was actually pretty good from about 4 mo's to 11 mo's. Then he learned to clilmb out of the crib and I had to move him to a real bed. Sigh. Too bad he had a wood floor or I would have let him fall on his noggin a few times to learn natural consequences! [I]Here's my deal, I don't want to leave her alone because I don't trust her. ...She does odd things, and i don't want to run the risk of leaving her alone and waking to her doing something destructive.[/I] Is she susceptible to suggestions such as "if you do xyz in the middle of the night, abc will happen"? [I]during day especially weekends i've been trying this new thing someone gave me an idea here about. I'll say ok difficult child i'm going to go and i pick something i'm going to do alone, it could be as simple as go into the bathroom lol, but when i come out we'll do this together.[/I] Excellent! [I]difficult child is able to channel really well at night yet every now and again and unsafe thing will occur, either with food she touches or huge kitchen scissors of knives, etc. (note to self hide knives).[/I] Yes, we hid the knives and scissors for a long time. I also put away several fragile collections ... I thought once the dogs were old enough and stopped chewing, I could put the items back on display, but then difficult child was the one who ended up being destructive. If it's not one thing, it's another! I have to say, now that we've gotten past the match- and fire-lighting stage, and the knife- and scissors stage, we're onto other things. Just when you think you've figured it all out, they come up with-another behavior. [I]As far as the manic carp and sleeplessness she's not anxiety ridden she's happy ready to go, she could run a mile, paint a house, draw a picasso.[/I] Hmm. Maybe you could put that to good use, but you said you don't want her having the run of the house. I'm thinking you could suggest that she really DO a Picasso, for ex, as a gift for someone. On one hand, it will keep her quiet. on the other hand, it will not get her to sleep. Also, I'm thinking I'd tell my difficult child, "If you're going to be awake at 2 a.m., you may as well be doing the laundry." Then I'd stand there with-MY hands on MY hips and say, "Well, I guess THAT idea isn't working!" LOL. But really, I have done similar things and the threat of real work makes him go back to his room, at least. [I]Now granted i'd much rather have a ridiculously happy kid up and bouncing about than where we were last year with her hysterical crying every night for hours [/I] Definitely. But lack of sleep is still lack of sleep. Have you tried asking a therapist for ideas? I can't remember if you put that in an older note. (Sorry.) [I]as they grow and the hormones kick in the behaviors change. That is why i'm so against allowing this mania to go thru the nights,[/I] I hear you! You've removed dyes and food colors, and caffeine, right? I'm probably just clutching at straws ... [/QUOTE]
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