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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 175645" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>How totally scary! Don't give up on the plan though. My difficult child is struggling with remembering to put his calming plan into place when he starts feeling weird. They can practice, practice, practice but until they actually start using the plan, it is hard to remember it in the moment of need.</p><p> </p><p>Like that incident, things do happen very fast or so slow that you hardly notice until it is too late. It takes practice for us moms also to see a start of something. difficult child wanted a ride in the tow truck but that was not possible - There was no alternative that would have satisfied difficult child - he just couldn't handle that opportunity being so close yet unassessible. That frustration kicked in real quick. You were under pressure of an upset difficult child plus a vehicle that wouldn't work - what would you do if he ran then? Frustration was in the air - by then it was hard to stop it.</p><p> </p><p>I am so glad he was found safe - I can feel your panick. Did you talk to him about it and ask him at what point he thought the plan should have been implemented? It may help him start learning or remembering the plan? But then, he is young to understand some of this - you will know if he can process it or not.</p><p> </p><p>Don't give up on the plan. Like every plan we make with our difficult children, it will take time for him to really embrace it. Right now he is unable to access the plan when under stress. What will help is the hard work of trying harder to predict those moments - trying to read an even earlier sign. When you start sensing a possible problem, start implementing the plan - I would not mention running but ask if he needs to do whatever the 1st step of the non-running plan is - which I am guessing has to do with destressing? I am assuming that the plan's first step doesn't identify the running instinct but the anxiety building up?</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry you are dealing with this - it is such a sick feeling to not know where your child is. Let us know what works.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 175645, member: 5096"] How totally scary! Don't give up on the plan though. My difficult child is struggling with remembering to put his calming plan into place when he starts feeling weird. They can practice, practice, practice but until they actually start using the plan, it is hard to remember it in the moment of need. Like that incident, things do happen very fast or so slow that you hardly notice until it is too late. It takes practice for us moms also to see a start of something. difficult child wanted a ride in the tow truck but that was not possible - There was no alternative that would have satisfied difficult child - he just couldn't handle that opportunity being so close yet unassessible. That frustration kicked in real quick. You were under pressure of an upset difficult child plus a vehicle that wouldn't work - what would you do if he ran then? Frustration was in the air - by then it was hard to stop it. I am so glad he was found safe - I can feel your panick. Did you talk to him about it and ask him at what point he thought the plan should have been implemented? It may help him start learning or remembering the plan? But then, he is young to understand some of this - you will know if he can process it or not. Don't give up on the plan. Like every plan we make with our difficult children, it will take time for him to really embrace it. Right now he is unable to access the plan when under stress. What will help is the hard work of trying harder to predict those moments - trying to read an even earlier sign. When you start sensing a possible problem, start implementing the plan - I would not mention running but ask if he needs to do whatever the 1st step of the non-running plan is - which I am guessing has to do with destressing? I am assuming that the plan's first step doesn't identify the running instinct but the anxiety building up? I am so sorry you are dealing with this - it is such a sick feeling to not know where your child is. Let us know what works. [/QUOTE]
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