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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 198100" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>I've been following your situation with some interest because it's been really awful for you to find someone you like. I'm in a different boat, but I, like most people here, have interviewed, tried, rejected, and loved various therapists, both for myself and my difficult child. </p><p></p><p>It sounds to me that you laid out your cards, you were extremely honest and specific, and this guy knows your preferences now. Sadly, I have seen therapists say whatever it takes to get me to come back regularly (aka, exaggerate their experience in a particular area). And I've had poor fits and good fits with therapists. I've never had one who followed my exact requested protocol (although I've never asked, really) and I've certainly never had one who did everything perfectly. </p><p></p><p>I think the best any of us can hope for is a good fit. If this person is willing to do things your way, and seems to be really trying, that's a good fit. He'll slip up as they all do, but if he's open to discussing the process with you (unlike the previous guy), that's a good fit. I have no doubt that he'll want to address the mood disorder, the family setting, and the relationship along with everything else, because clearly these things don't exist in a vacuum. If you're not terribly unhappy with the balance of the issues he's trying to address, I'd call that a good fit. </p><p></p><p>If your gut says this guy might be on the same page with you, I'd say follow that instinct. It stinks, but you probably won't know for sure if he's the right guy until several sessions down the road.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 198100, member: 3413"] I've been following your situation with some interest because it's been really awful for you to find someone you like. I'm in a different boat, but I, like most people here, have interviewed, tried, rejected, and loved various therapists, both for myself and my difficult child. It sounds to me that you laid out your cards, you were extremely honest and specific, and this guy knows your preferences now. Sadly, I have seen therapists say whatever it takes to get me to come back regularly (aka, exaggerate their experience in a particular area). And I've had poor fits and good fits with therapists. I've never had one who followed my exact requested protocol (although I've never asked, really) and I've certainly never had one who did everything perfectly. I think the best any of us can hope for is a good fit. If this person is willing to do things your way, and seems to be really trying, that's a good fit. He'll slip up as they all do, but if he's open to discussing the process with you (unlike the previous guy), that's a good fit. I have no doubt that he'll want to address the mood disorder, the family setting, and the relationship along with everything else, because clearly these things don't exist in a vacuum. If you're not terribly unhappy with the balance of the issues he's trying to address, I'd call that a good fit. If your gut says this guy might be on the same page with you, I'd say follow that instinct. It stinks, but you probably won't know for sure if he's the right guy until several sessions down the road. [/QUOTE]
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