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Another update on M, & thoughts on Desmond Tutu
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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 122173" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>As a child of parents who just weren't there for me, I learned the art of forgiveness early. It didn't mean that I was okaying their choices---just that I was letting go of the resentment and anger that eats one up in side when they don't forgive. </p><p></p><p>To me it's not about any certain religious belief---although I do believe in Biblical principals---It is about self preservation. When you hang on to resentment, when you repeatedly relive the wrongs done to you, you live in a place of powerlessness. You rehash the moment over and over again. You live in the "what if's" and "should've" place of regret. When you forgive, you are releasing that person from having power over your life. You realize that the issues they are dealing with, the one's that caused them to "do you wrong" have little to nothing to do with you and that releases you from the guilt of wondering if you really did something to deserve the pain they put upon you. </p><p></p><p>Steven Covey said there are two kinds of people in the world---those who make things happen and those who are happened to. I don't want to be happened to in my life. I want to make things happen. That can only occur when you are strong enough in your "self" to let go of people who hurt you, intentionally and unintentionally. As long as you hold on to the hurt---you are being happened to again and again.</p><p></p><p>We have little control over what happens, only how we choose to respond to it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 122173, member: 1436"] As a child of parents who just weren't there for me, I learned the art of forgiveness early. It didn't mean that I was okaying their choices---just that I was letting go of the resentment and anger that eats one up in side when they don't forgive. To me it's not about any certain religious belief---although I do believe in Biblical principals---It is about self preservation. When you hang on to resentment, when you repeatedly relive the wrongs done to you, you live in a place of powerlessness. You rehash the moment over and over again. You live in the "what if's" and "should've" place of regret. When you forgive, you are releasing that person from having power over your life. You realize that the issues they are dealing with, the one's that caused them to "do you wrong" have little to nothing to do with you and that releases you from the guilt of wondering if you really did something to deserve the pain they put upon you. Steven Covey said there are two kinds of people in the world---those who make things happen and those who are happened to. I don't want to be happened to in my life. I want to make things happen. That can only occur when you are strong enough in your "self" to let go of people who hurt you, intentionally and unintentionally. As long as you hold on to the hurt---you are being happened to again and again. We have little control over what happens, only how we choose to respond to it. [/QUOTE]
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