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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 554004" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I think it's the overcompensating for 2 working parents, which leads to the helicopter parenting. The "connection" of the internet ect and the over dramatization we see surrounding us in media exacerbate the issue. </p><p></p><p>I was a stay at home mom, and I <strong>still</strong> didn't helicopter parent. Far from it. My kids interaction with the internet & other media was strictly limited, so their exposure was low and they grew up away from drama. Often, they would gawk at their friends, totally not understanding their behavior. If my kids wanted extra money they had to work for it, and they would <strong>work</strong>. There was no allowance, family lives in a home and everyone contributes to the running of that home/family. They felt natural consequences for their choices. Mom rarely intervened except when a consequence was ridiculous. (Such as trying to suspend easy child for wearing jeans she could walk on when the girl is 4'11" and finding petite jr jeans is next to impossible and costly) They were taught before leaving toddlerhood that while they were loved and cherished, the world didn't center around them. </p><p></p><p>As a result, my kids cope with what life throws at them pretty well, no matter how bad it is. </p><p></p><p>I find myself much relieved that for the most part, my grandchildren are being raised the same way. easy child is still battling the working mom guilt........but I do see hope there, and much progress. She might flood the boys with stuff, but she's beginning to see what a waste that is and that it's not the stuff they want, it's just some of her time. </p><p></p><p>I do worry about this helicopter parenting phenomena though, because it's not just parents doing it.........but society seems to be embracing it. Then when something like this happens they're just so stunned the young person could not cope. </p><p></p><p>Step, I amazed more than one of such teachers.........and ticked off plenty, when I flat out refused to make school issues into home issues. lol Of course I'll never forget the teachers who couldn't thank me enough for actually giving my kids a bedtime before 9pm, which meant they weren't falling asleep at their desks or being grumpy or whiny in the class all day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 554004, member: 84"] I think it's the overcompensating for 2 working parents, which leads to the helicopter parenting. The "connection" of the internet ect and the over dramatization we see surrounding us in media exacerbate the issue. I was a stay at home mom, and I [B]still[/B] didn't helicopter parent. Far from it. My kids interaction with the internet & other media was strictly limited, so their exposure was low and they grew up away from drama. Often, they would gawk at their friends, totally not understanding their behavior. If my kids wanted extra money they had to work for it, and they would [B]work[/B]. There was no allowance, family lives in a home and everyone contributes to the running of that home/family. They felt natural consequences for their choices. Mom rarely intervened except when a consequence was ridiculous. (Such as trying to suspend easy child for wearing jeans she could walk on when the girl is 4'11" and finding petite jr jeans is next to impossible and costly) They were taught before leaving toddlerhood that while they were loved and cherished, the world didn't center around them. As a result, my kids cope with what life throws at them pretty well, no matter how bad it is. I find myself much relieved that for the most part, my grandchildren are being raised the same way. easy child is still battling the working mom guilt........but I do see hope there, and much progress. She might flood the boys with stuff, but she's beginning to see what a waste that is and that it's not the stuff they want, it's just some of her time. I do worry about this helicopter parenting phenomena though, because it's not just parents doing it.........but society seems to be embracing it. Then when something like this happens they're just so stunned the young person could not cope. Step, I amazed more than one of such teachers.........and ticked off plenty, when I flat out refused to make school issues into home issues. lol Of course I'll never forget the teachers who couldn't thank me enough for actually giving my kids a bedtime before 9pm, which meant they weren't falling asleep at their desks or being grumpy or whiny in the class all day. [/QUOTE]
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