Yes, that's right, I'm looking for a second opinion. J is indisputably physically hyperactive, impulsive, has low frustration tolerance, is quick to anger, difficult to discipline unless you find the right approach, seems to have various sensory issues, is very bright, imaginative, sociable, affectionate, playful, funny and sensitive. He is clearly not autistic but other than that I cannot make a firm diagnosis of anything. Everything he is seems consistent with ADHD other than the fact that he concentrates well at school - he seems to push himself to do this, however, at some cost. I do not think it comes naturally. Without evaluations how on earth am I ever going to know? I agree with you, MWM, that the label is to help with accommodations and parenting/teaching approaches. Funnily enough, the doctor I saw today made the point you make, whatamess, that the teacher probably would not accept the label even if I had one! On the other hand, I KNOW it would change something in how he is perceived.
Funny how I've come right around from not wanting a label for J in the beginning to really seeing the value of that...
