The key to it, really, seems to be the fact that at the moment - at the tender age of five - things are okay in school and no-one is clamouring for him to get help, as is often the case with ADHD kids here. I think you're right, Marguerite - this last doctor seemed to pride himself on his ability to sum up a situation in five minutes flat! He also said at one point that if J were truly ADHD he would have dismantled the office and would not have been interacting with me as he did at certain points. Is that true?? Seems like an awful caricature.
I've done all I can, I feel, in terms of getting evaluations. It's not going to happen here and not at the moment. I have another appointment with the original doctor in June and will have to discuss this with her - if she will let me get a word in edgeways. Part of problem is that these are public services, which are under pressure and with many children to see. I tried the private sector, however, and that is the doctor who thinks it is all because I am divorced. Sigh.