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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 39834" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>With the two of them being so volatile and unpredictable, Janet,</p><p>I think backing off is probably the best thing to do. on the other hand I</p><p>wanted you to know that it can be done so should circumstances</p><p>change you will have the information. Your attorney is legally</p><p>correct (how nice you don't have another loser..lol); however, if</p><p>you should ever feel the need to use a Durable P of A the wording</p><p>includes "health" so that is how you protect the child during the</p><p>night. It's an ongoing stressful sales job. You sweetly say</p><p>"Ant I know you would like to take Kaleb with you right now but</p><p>he is sound fast assleep and the Doctor wants him to have a full</p><p>solid nights sleep to protect his health. If you want to come</p><p>back in a few hours (chances are it will be 3 AM then), I'll make</p><p>sure Kaleb is dresssed, fed and waiting to see you." Ant won't</p><p>show up at 6 AM! on the other hand, if he is drunk or drugged and would be</p><p>an actual danger to Kaleb...then you can call the police and</p><p>quietly explain that your son wants to take his son with him but</p><p>at the moment he appears to be under the influence AND that you</p><p>have a D P of A that BOTH parents have signed/notarized showing</p><p>you have the right to make decisions for his safety and health.</p><p></p><p>Once you pull out a copy of the document (I keep one at home,</p><p>one at work and one in my purse. The one in my purse is the only</p><p>one folded...the other two are in a slipin plastic page protector</p><p>so it can't be grabbed and ripped) the Officer will be on your</p><p>side, the medical people will be on your side and the school will</p><p>be on your side.</p><p></p><p>IF any of those people side with the parent, which could happen</p><p>of course, then you will absolutely know that you did every single thing you could do to protect Kaleb.</p><p></p><p>Please understand that I am NOT saying that you should do this.</p><p>I just want you to know that you do not have to feel as though</p><p>there is no way to take action. Many, many, many times I have</p><p>wished that I hadn't figured out how to do this. It has sucked</p><p>our life away. on the other hand, we did have almost fourteen years that were</p><p>full of love and laughter with easy child/difficult child...and...we thank God that</p><p>difficult child really does have a chance at a future after these past five</p><p>or six uninterrupted years. </p><p></p><p>As always, I will remember you and your family in my prayers.DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 39834, member: 35"] With the two of them being so volatile and unpredictable, Janet, I think backing off is probably the best thing to do. on the other hand I wanted you to know that it can be done so should circumstances change you will have the information. Your attorney is legally correct (how nice you don't have another loser..lol); however, if you should ever feel the need to use a Durable P of A the wording includes "health" so that is how you protect the child during the night. It's an ongoing stressful sales job. You sweetly say "Ant I know you would like to take Kaleb with you right now but he is sound fast assleep and the Doctor wants him to have a full solid nights sleep to protect his health. If you want to come back in a few hours (chances are it will be 3 AM then), I'll make sure Kaleb is dresssed, fed and waiting to see you." Ant won't show up at 6 AM! on the other hand, if he is drunk or drugged and would be an actual danger to Kaleb...then you can call the police and quietly explain that your son wants to take his son with him but at the moment he appears to be under the influence AND that you have a D P of A that BOTH parents have signed/notarized showing you have the right to make decisions for his safety and health. Once you pull out a copy of the document (I keep one at home, one at work and one in my purse. The one in my purse is the only one folded...the other two are in a slipin plastic page protector so it can't be grabbed and ripped) the Officer will be on your side, the medical people will be on your side and the school will be on your side. IF any of those people side with the parent, which could happen of course, then you will absolutely know that you did every single thing you could do to protect Kaleb. Please understand that I am NOT saying that you should do this. I just want you to know that you do not have to feel as though there is no way to take action. Many, many, many times I have wished that I hadn't figured out how to do this. It has sucked our life away. on the other hand, we did have almost fourteen years that were full of love and laughter with easy child/difficult child...and...we thank God that difficult child really does have a chance at a future after these past five or six uninterrupted years. As always, I will remember you and your family in my prayers.DDD [/QUOTE]
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