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antidepressants after 1 week - IQ/executive function drop?
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<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 414288" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>Agee,</p><p></p><p>I think you did right. I think that sometimes we need to get their attention particularly when it matters as in stealing. I think you instituted logical consequences. What would be wrong would be to assume that the punishment itself will necessarily prevent future incidents (which you probably don't). Time will tell. And it sounds like you didn't impose long-term consequences (like no TV for a month which would probably lose it meaning to the kid). </p><p>While I agree with alot of what MWM has to say, Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) is a spectrum disorder. There are very severely affected kids and not so affected kids. One should not generalize. I believe that some at least from my experience are capable of cause and effect thinking--they need more reinforcement and teaching perhaps that a "normal" kid would. Also I think that it is in adolescence that you begin to see what kind of gap you are dealing with in terms of development delay or lack of development. My son is doing pretty well, but believe me we have been through our share of very difficult times and adolescence is definitely a challenge. </p><p></p><p>It is good to have lowered expectations in the sense that you are more vigilant etc. But unless the child is severely affected there will be some growth and some progress. What you don't want to do is set the child up for failure by having expectations that they simply can't meet.</p><p></p><p>I hear you about public school. The one thing my experience has taught me which you also seem to be practicing is the need for good mentorship and role models. I kind of have this mental picture of my son surrounded by good role models shepherding through childhood keeping him on the straight and narrow. It is so vital to help these kids maintain any shred of self esteem because the world just sees them as screw-ups--they don't present as kids with severe mental illness or handicaps. I am sorry your school system is such a disaster. One thing I would urge you to do is to try to find a school advocate--there are state wide resources. It sounds as if your school system is quite far behind actually. And with a diagnosis it should be easier to get services. but maybe not worth it right now. </p><p></p><p>We have shed so many tears and waged so many battles. It stinks but we have seen growth so hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 414288, member: 2322"] Agee, I think you did right. I think that sometimes we need to get their attention particularly when it matters as in stealing. I think you instituted logical consequences. What would be wrong would be to assume that the punishment itself will necessarily prevent future incidents (which you probably don't). Time will tell. And it sounds like you didn't impose long-term consequences (like no TV for a month which would probably lose it meaning to the kid). While I agree with alot of what MWM has to say, Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) is a spectrum disorder. There are very severely affected kids and not so affected kids. One should not generalize. I believe that some at least from my experience are capable of cause and effect thinking--they need more reinforcement and teaching perhaps that a "normal" kid would. Also I think that it is in adolescence that you begin to see what kind of gap you are dealing with in terms of development delay or lack of development. My son is doing pretty well, but believe me we have been through our share of very difficult times and adolescence is definitely a challenge. It is good to have lowered expectations in the sense that you are more vigilant etc. But unless the child is severely affected there will be some growth and some progress. What you don't want to do is set the child up for failure by having expectations that they simply can't meet. I hear you about public school. The one thing my experience has taught me which you also seem to be practicing is the need for good mentorship and role models. I kind of have this mental picture of my son surrounded by good role models shepherding through childhood keeping him on the straight and narrow. It is so vital to help these kids maintain any shred of self esteem because the world just sees them as screw-ups--they don't present as kids with severe mental illness or handicaps. I am sorry your school system is such a disaster. One thing I would urge you to do is to try to find a school advocate--there are state wide resources. It sounds as if your school system is quite far behind actually. And with a diagnosis it should be easier to get services. but maybe not worth it right now. We have shed so many tears and waged so many battles. It stinks but we have seen growth so hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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