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Antisocial Personality Disorder Diagnosis of my 18 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 433063"><p>I too am really glad you have talked to the police and they will be coming by. It will hard between now and then to just keep mum and see what happens. If the conversation about his plans goes south (good chance) then end it quickly. Whatever you do don't engage if he gets nasty because that will only escalate things. So if he starts to escalate walk away..... let him think he has won. That is basically what happened with my son, we tried to talk to him about following the rules and he quickly got nasty and told me he wanted to bash my teeth in... I backed off, walked away and went to the police.</p><p></p><p>I know right now it is really hard to do anything but manage to live there under all this stress for the next few days. Once he is out of the house though you may want to make a move towards communication. He is only 18, has no clue of the world, and given that he has basically been kicked out of the house is probably not going to ask for your help... plus there are all the adoption and other issues he has.</p><p></p><p>This was pointed out to me by my therapist when I was just going to wait until he got in touch.. So after talking to her I texted him here and there. Not constantly but every couple of days. At first there was no response but then he got in trouble and called us.</p><p></p><p>It is now a year later. a lot has happened since then. He did come back for a short time last summer but is now out of our house probably for good. However we are communicating and it gives us a chance to do something here and there fo rhim to let him know we love him..... yet without taking him on and supporting him. It is a balancing act for sure. We are going to have dinner with my son and his girlfriend tonight which is a huge step for us..... I can't say we have a good relationship right now but it is better than it was.</p><p></p><p>I have been thinking about the ASPD diagnosis... one of the things that the DSM says is this can't be diagnosed before the age of 18.... so I would hesitate to really be sure of that diagnosis.... so much brain development and growing up still to do. Given that there is no medications to treat ASPD (that I know of) I don't think that diagnosis really matters much.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how it goes... those of us who have been where you are really do understand, unfortunately all too well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 433063"] I too am really glad you have talked to the police and they will be coming by. It will hard between now and then to just keep mum and see what happens. If the conversation about his plans goes south (good chance) then end it quickly. Whatever you do don't engage if he gets nasty because that will only escalate things. So if he starts to escalate walk away..... let him think he has won. That is basically what happened with my son, we tried to talk to him about following the rules and he quickly got nasty and told me he wanted to bash my teeth in... I backed off, walked away and went to the police. I know right now it is really hard to do anything but manage to live there under all this stress for the next few days. Once he is out of the house though you may want to make a move towards communication. He is only 18, has no clue of the world, and given that he has basically been kicked out of the house is probably not going to ask for your help... plus there are all the adoption and other issues he has. This was pointed out to me by my therapist when I was just going to wait until he got in touch.. So after talking to her I texted him here and there. Not constantly but every couple of days. At first there was no response but then he got in trouble and called us. It is now a year later. a lot has happened since then. He did come back for a short time last summer but is now out of our house probably for good. However we are communicating and it gives us a chance to do something here and there fo rhim to let him know we love him..... yet without taking him on and supporting him. It is a balancing act for sure. We are going to have dinner with my son and his girlfriend tonight which is a huge step for us..... I can't say we have a good relationship right now but it is better than it was. I have been thinking about the ASPD diagnosis... one of the things that the DSM says is this can't be diagnosed before the age of 18.... so I would hesitate to really be sure of that diagnosis.... so much brain development and growing up still to do. Given that there is no medications to treat ASPD (that I know of) I don't think that diagnosis really matters much. Let us know how it goes... those of us who have been where you are really do understand, unfortunately all too well. [/QUOTE]
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