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Antisocial Personality Disorder Diagnosis of my 18 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 433114"><p>Yes and yes and yes about changing locks, locking all windows, etc. I can tell you from personal experience (and you can read about it in many posts here) that a difficult child will try to come back later that day/night or the next day or within the next few days to get back into the house. My sister's difficult child came back the next morning raising hell at the front door, demanding to be let back in to pick up something he *said* he had left in his room. He just wanted back in, of course, so that he could install himself in the house again and this time use the threat or reality of force to support his claim for remaining there. You can quickly undo all of the progress you made in evicting him if you let him back in "for just a minute" to "find something he left behind." Once we had made it clear (literally communicating through a closed and locked door) that we wouldn't let him back in, he demanded money to compensate for the thing left behind (his wallet, he claimed--"found" it later, of course), which my sister gave him, against my advice, just to "pay him off" and make him leave. My point is simply that the actual eviction is one thing, and the next couple of days are another: expect attempts to get back into the house, and be ready to deal with them effectively and without acquiescing even momentarily. If he does get back into the house, expect real mayhem the next time you try to evict him: with nothing to lose, difficult child can and will really tear things up, steal everything not forcibly kept from him, commit violence against you, and so on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 433114"] Yes and yes and yes about changing locks, locking all windows, etc. I can tell you from personal experience (and you can read about it in many posts here) that a difficult child will try to come back later that day/night or the next day or within the next few days to get back into the house. My sister's difficult child came back the next morning raising hell at the front door, demanding to be let back in to pick up something he *said* he had left in his room. He just wanted back in, of course, so that he could install himself in the house again and this time use the threat or reality of force to support his claim for remaining there. You can quickly undo all of the progress you made in evicting him if you let him back in "for just a minute" to "find something he left behind." Once we had made it clear (literally communicating through a closed and locked door) that we wouldn't let him back in, he demanded money to compensate for the thing left behind (his wallet, he claimed--"found" it later, of course), which my sister gave him, against my advice, just to "pay him off" and make him leave. My point is simply that the actual eviction is one thing, and the next couple of days are another: expect attempts to get back into the house, and be ready to deal with them effectively and without acquiescing even momentarily. If he does get back into the house, expect real mayhem the next time you try to evict him: with nothing to lose, difficult child can and will really tear things up, steal everything not forcibly kept from him, commit violence against you, and so on. [/QUOTE]
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