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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 182980" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I was thinking about the anxiety question today. My son has meltdowns when he needs to turn a project in at school but he doesn't think it's perfect- even if he's completed it, he will tear it up or refuse to take it. Sometimes, he refuses to complete them. The people on the IEP team first said it sound like he was a perfectionist. Then I said I didn't think so because he doesn't care about things being perfect if it's just the two of us that will see them. Then, we thought anxiety because after we talked more, it was clearer that he really worried about what the teachers and other kids would think, to a point that it interferes with normal functioning. The psychiatrists said they don't think it is anxiety.</p><p></p><p>That makes me think maybe we should "peel back" another layer- maybe it does have something to do with his rejection issue from his father not being in his life. His individual counselor last year said that difficult child "suffers from EXTREME self-consciousness". </p><p></p><p>I bring this up because you ask for examples and after thinking about it, maybe the psychiatrists were saying that they don't think the underlying problem is anxiety- maybe they understood that he's exhibiting anxious behavior, but that isn't the root of it.</p><p></p><p>My son also has trouble talking to adults in public. For instance, if we're running a little late to an appointment and I pull up in front of the door and ask him to go in while I park the car, he cannot bring himself to do it. Late or not, he has to wait for me to come with him. This doesn't happen at school, but happens at ANY kind of office. And, I've asked him a couple of times to run in a store and buy a pack of salad or something (an item that he could easily find) while I wait out front in the car. He freezes and cannot do it- he begs me not to have to do it. He can go through the cashier line fine if I'm in front or behind him- he has no problem with getting an item, paying, or checking change. If I'm there near him.</p><p></p><p>Then, there is the issue about his law-breaking- when he set the brush fire, a few kids that he had just met a couple of days before were with him a little earlier. They had just told him that they wanted him to go on his way, they had something else to do. My difficult child started this fire by dropping matches around his own feet about 15-20 mins later.</p><p></p><p>Depression and anxiety issues run throughout my family, so I battle what to think about it with difficult child. I definitely think he has rejection issues. But, the point I wanted to make is that I have to remind myself that when I discuss things with tdocs and psychiatrists, I need to say specifically what difficult child has done and not that "I think it is anxiety" or whatever. Maybe they really are trying to peel back the layers....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 182980, member: 3699"] I was thinking about the anxiety question today. My son has meltdowns when he needs to turn a project in at school but he doesn't think it's perfect- even if he's completed it, he will tear it up or refuse to take it. Sometimes, he refuses to complete them. The people on the IEP team first said it sound like he was a perfectionist. Then I said I didn't think so because he doesn't care about things being perfect if it's just the two of us that will see them. Then, we thought anxiety because after we talked more, it was clearer that he really worried about what the teachers and other kids would think, to a point that it interferes with normal functioning. The psychiatrists said they don't think it is anxiety. That makes me think maybe we should "peel back" another layer- maybe it does have something to do with his rejection issue from his father not being in his life. His individual counselor last year said that difficult child "suffers from EXTREME self-consciousness". I bring this up because you ask for examples and after thinking about it, maybe the psychiatrists were saying that they don't think the underlying problem is anxiety- maybe they understood that he's exhibiting anxious behavior, but that isn't the root of it. My son also has trouble talking to adults in public. For instance, if we're running a little late to an appointment and I pull up in front of the door and ask him to go in while I park the car, he cannot bring himself to do it. Late or not, he has to wait for me to come with him. This doesn't happen at school, but happens at ANY kind of office. And, I've asked him a couple of times to run in a store and buy a pack of salad or something (an item that he could easily find) while I wait out front in the car. He freezes and cannot do it- he begs me not to have to do it. He can go through the cashier line fine if I'm in front or behind him- he has no problem with getting an item, paying, or checking change. If I'm there near him. Then, there is the issue about his law-breaking- when he set the brush fire, a few kids that he had just met a couple of days before were with him a little earlier. They had just told him that they wanted him to go on his way, they had something else to do. My difficult child started this fire by dropping matches around his own feet about 15-20 mins later. Depression and anxiety issues run throughout my family, so I battle what to think about it with difficult child. I definitely think he has rejection issues. But, the point I wanted to make is that I have to remind myself that when I discuss things with tdocs and psychiatrists, I need to say specifically what difficult child has done and not that "I think it is anxiety" or whatever. Maybe they really are trying to peel back the layers.... [/QUOTE]
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