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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 107984" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The day is fast approaching - already here in some parts of the world including ours - where soap in the mouth is considered abuse. So we need to put thinking caps on and come up with something more acceptable and if possible, more effective.</p><p></p><p>Gleaning from everybody else but putting in my 2c worth as well:</p><p></p><p>1) Look up the meaning/etymology/history of the word. Wikipedia makes life a lot easier these days. This is a useful punishment because it involves a lecture; time spent 'studying' and having to learn something; having to ace the outcome and find a better way. It also makes for a much more knowledgeable child (and parent?)</p><p></p><p>2) Sit with the child and find a better alternative word. Part of the rationale here - using the same old swear words as everybody else is unimaginative as well as offensive. The point of swearing is to have something you can utter as an outburst which helps relive tension; there's nothing in the rules that says it has to be offensive.</p><p>I'm told that some other languages are very satisfying to swear in - German is good, I'm told Yugoslav is brilliant. French is useless for swearing. Although "merde" was the substitute swear word easy child 2/difficult child 2 used for some time.</p><p>I remember saying "sugar!" instead of sh**. The problem with that was I sometimes uttered "Sugar!" with such vehemence, it was clear what I was THINKING. So I changed to "Schweppes!" which works well too.</p><p>If you can find an imaginative alternative you next have to practice saying it, until it becomes automatic. That is another aspect of swear words - they have to be automatic. And it really does feel weird to be practising swearing. But it does work.</p><p>Instead of "f***" I've substituted "far out!" or "for crying out loud!". If you pause on the "f" long enough, you can train your brain to substitute. Or you can take a leaf from the Two Ronnies and substitute a certain naughty phrase with "far canal". Although that is still perhaps too obvious. We have a suburb in Sydney called Kurnell. It, too, is also far away. Far Kurnell. They are talking about putting a desalination plant there. The public response - "far Kurnell!"</p><p></p><p>I hope this helps.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 107984, member: 1991"] The day is fast approaching - already here in some parts of the world including ours - where soap in the mouth is considered abuse. So we need to put thinking caps on and come up with something more acceptable and if possible, more effective. Gleaning from everybody else but putting in my 2c worth as well: 1) Look up the meaning/etymology/history of the word. Wikipedia makes life a lot easier these days. This is a useful punishment because it involves a lecture; time spent 'studying' and having to learn something; having to ace the outcome and find a better way. It also makes for a much more knowledgeable child (and parent?) 2) Sit with the child and find a better alternative word. Part of the rationale here - using the same old swear words as everybody else is unimaginative as well as offensive. The point of swearing is to have something you can utter as an outburst which helps relive tension; there's nothing in the rules that says it has to be offensive. I'm told that some other languages are very satisfying to swear in - German is good, I'm told Yugoslav is brilliant. French is useless for swearing. Although "merde" was the substitute swear word easy child 2/difficult child 2 used for some time. I remember saying "sugar!" instead of sh**. The problem with that was I sometimes uttered "Sugar!" with such vehemence, it was clear what I was THINKING. So I changed to "Schweppes!" which works well too. If you can find an imaginative alternative you next have to practice saying it, until it becomes automatic. That is another aspect of swear words - they have to be automatic. And it really does feel weird to be practising swearing. But it does work. Instead of "f***" I've substituted "far out!" or "for crying out loud!". If you pause on the "f" long enough, you can train your brain to substitute. Or you can take a leaf from the Two Ronnies and substitute a certain naughty phrase with "far canal". Although that is still perhaps too obvious. We have a suburb in Sydney called Kurnell. It, too, is also far away. Far Kurnell. They are talking about putting a desalination plant there. The public response - "far Kurnell!" I hope this helps. Marg [/QUOTE]
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