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any info. on 30 day notice for 17 1/2 yr. olds in NJ?
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<blockquote data-quote="So Tired" data-source="post: 142723" data-attributes="member: 4772"><p>Peg,</p><p> </p><p>Wishing you strength and courage in the days ahead. All I heard for a year from my difficult child was how much he hated living here and how he was leaving when he hit 18 (like that was gonna make me feel bad!) Funny, that rant stopped when he turned 18 in November. He moved out for a few days last month but then asked to come home. Said he was welcome if he treated our home with respect. Guess it's not as bad here as he thought! </p><p> </p><p>One of the things we did was install deadbolts to the exterior doors. I told him the day before it happened and that he would not have the key because of his failure to respect our home. If we wanted him locked out, we can lock the deadbolts. (Say we go away for the weekend and don't want him to have access to the house) It has given me a tremendous sense of security. </p><p> </p><p>We have given him till June 1st to find somewhere else to live. (He has a part time job and a car) Does your son have a job? Does he have transportation to his job? Maybe you could get him a bus pass to get him started... Not to enable, just so you could feel peace in that you did all you could to help him.</p><p> </p><p>I know it is hard to balance the love you have for him with the pain of being taken advantage of by him. I try now to do only those things that I actually want to, so that I don't feel as resentful when he is an absolute <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />.</p><p> </p><p>We will be thinking of you and sending you strength by way of support...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="So Tired, post: 142723, member: 4772"] Peg, Wishing you strength and courage in the days ahead. All I heard for a year from my difficult child was how much he hated living here and how he was leaving when he hit 18 (like that was gonna make me feel bad!) Funny, that rant stopped when he turned 18 in November. He moved out for a few days last month but then asked to come home. Said he was welcome if he treated our home with respect. Guess it's not as bad here as he thought! One of the things we did was install deadbolts to the exterior doors. I told him the day before it happened and that he would not have the key because of his failure to respect our home. If we wanted him locked out, we can lock the deadbolts. (Say we go away for the weekend and don't want him to have access to the house) It has given me a tremendous sense of security. We have given him till June 1st to find somewhere else to live. (He has a part time job and a car) Does your son have a job? Does he have transportation to his job? Maybe you could get him a bus pass to get him started... Not to enable, just so you could feel peace in that you did all you could to help him. I know it is hard to balance the love you have for him with the pain of being taken advantage of by him. I try now to do only those things that I actually want to, so that I don't feel as resentful when he is an absolute :censored2:. We will be thinking of you and sending you strength by way of support... [/QUOTE]
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