Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Any point in getting axis II diagnosis for nearly 18 year old?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 373331" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I've been on this board for over 11 years now and have "watched" a lot of kids grow up. Two things really stand out to me. One, that "success" is relative - what we dreamed for our difficult children when they were little pretty much gets chucked out the window somewhere along the way (I guess to be honest, that's probably true for all of our kids, LOL). I expected thank you to graduate HS, go on to college, get a job, comply somewhat to basic social norms (his appearance right now is ... well, it's kind of a goth/demented Dr. Seuss look and provokes a lot of negative reaction in his community - sigh, his choice), and lead a fairly "normal" life based on my blue-collar Midwestern standards. A lot to expect of my difficult child, in hindsight. As he veered towards 18, our expectations/hopes changed. Now, we're just happy that he's alive and not in jail. I ache because he has made his life incredibly difficult, but somehow he's making it work for him... and it's his to do with as he pleases.</p><p></p><p>The other thing is that it seems to take our difficult children a lot longer to "cook". It seems like a *lot* of difficult children don't really start to get it until their 20s, and some of them make some pretty goofy moves in the meantime. The goal is a law-abiding, productive adult. Anything more is window dressing.</p><p></p><p>But this waiting for them to get it is nothing short of torture. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>I certainly don't think it's unreasonable to try again to get your difficult child into treatment again and as tuned up as she will allow. Certainly not a bad idea to get her difficulties as well documented as possible for future reference.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 373331, member: 8"] I've been on this board for over 11 years now and have "watched" a lot of kids grow up. Two things really stand out to me. One, that "success" is relative - what we dreamed for our difficult children when they were little pretty much gets chucked out the window somewhere along the way (I guess to be honest, that's probably true for all of our kids, LOL). I expected thank you to graduate HS, go on to college, get a job, comply somewhat to basic social norms (his appearance right now is ... well, it's kind of a goth/demented Dr. Seuss look and provokes a lot of negative reaction in his community - sigh, his choice), and lead a fairly "normal" life based on my blue-collar Midwestern standards. A lot to expect of my difficult child, in hindsight. As he veered towards 18, our expectations/hopes changed. Now, we're just happy that he's alive and not in jail. I ache because he has made his life incredibly difficult, but somehow he's making it work for him... and it's his to do with as he pleases. The other thing is that it seems to take our difficult children a lot longer to "cook". It seems like a *lot* of difficult children don't really start to get it until their 20s, and some of them make some pretty goofy moves in the meantime. The goal is a law-abiding, productive adult. Anything more is window dressing. But this waiting for them to get it is nothing short of torture. :winking: I certainly don't think it's unreasonable to try again to get your difficult child into treatment again and as tuned up as she will allow. Certainly not a bad idea to get her difficulties as well documented as possible for future reference. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Any point in getting axis II diagnosis for nearly 18 year old?
Top