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Any strategies to stop feeling terror when my phone rings.
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 676293" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>I am a member of the club, too. My heart races at the thought of any contact with my daughter because I know it will be bad news. I finally got to the point of blocking her calls and texts and deleting voice messages without listening to them. She finally got the message and stopped trying to contact me.</p><p></p><p>My husband went so far as to get new phone number and uses hangouts to call her so she can't see his number. He restricts the calls to once a week and only talks to her when she is appropriate. </p><p></p><p>We went to see her a couple of days ago thinking that she was doing much better. She had a good job and was saying all of the right things about taking personal responsibility. We paid in advance so when we got the news a week before we were supposed to go that she lost her job, we went anyway.</p><p></p><p>Big mistake. I am convinced she is using again and she kept trying to talk us into letting her come back home which we made very clear was not going to happen. Holding our boundaries is so much harder when we see her in person. We even left a day early. All of the stress and anxiety of dealing with her issues came back in full force.</p><p></p><p>I had unblocked her before the holidays but blocked her again when we got home. I felt myself getting sucked right back into her chaotic life choices. </p><p></p><p>Knowing the phone won't ring and that I won't get any texts is the only way I can have peace at this point.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 676293, member: 1967"] I am a member of the club, too. My heart races at the thought of any contact with my daughter because I know it will be bad news. I finally got to the point of blocking her calls and texts and deleting voice messages without listening to them. She finally got the message and stopped trying to contact me. My husband went so far as to get new phone number and uses hangouts to call her so she can't see his number. He restricts the calls to once a week and only talks to her when she is appropriate. We went to see her a couple of days ago thinking that she was doing much better. She had a good job and was saying all of the right things about taking personal responsibility. We paid in advance so when we got the news a week before we were supposed to go that she lost her job, we went anyway. Big mistake. I am convinced she is using again and she kept trying to talk us into letting her come back home which we made very clear was not going to happen. Holding our boundaries is so much harder when we see her in person. We even left a day early. All of the stress and anxiety of dealing with her issues came back in full force. I had unblocked her before the holidays but blocked her again when we got home. I felt myself getting sucked right back into her chaotic life choices. Knowing the phone won't ring and that I won't get any texts is the only way I can have peace at this point. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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