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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 474379" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I did that with mother in law for <em><strong>years</strong></em>. For most of it my kids were still home and young. But for the really declining years, mine were grown and it made that part easier. (if it can be easier)</p><p></p><p>It's quite frankly, exhausting. Mentally, physically, and somewhat emotionally. You need to make sure you're taking care of your needs too to keep yourself up to the challenge. It's also a good idea to have someone to switch off with if you can. You take so many other days, other person take so many days. Maybe not for the bills or whatever, but the running to do the medications or the upkeep on the house and personal hygiene. </p><p></p><p>You may ask if a home health nurse can come and help with medications. I'm not sure if they'll do it everyday.....but I do know they'll help and SS will cover it. A home health aide could come and help her with personal hygiene too, again SS should cover it considering her advanced age. Is there a grandchild who could do her cleaning (I'm sure it's fairly light if she's like mother in law) for a small fee or just because they love their grandma? sister in law did mother in law's yard work for the several years before she passed so she didn't have to pay anyone. mother in law had a housekeeper that came in twice a month and would even do her laundry and I'm pretty sure she didn't charge her very much. </p><p></p><p>Try to delegate as much of the responsibility as you can to services or other family that can help. Because you're only one person and if you get down and out there will be no one in place to pick up the slack.</p><p></p><p>((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 474379, member: 84"] I did that with mother in law for [I][B]years[/B][/I]. For most of it my kids were still home and young. But for the really declining years, mine were grown and it made that part easier. (if it can be easier) It's quite frankly, exhausting. Mentally, physically, and somewhat emotionally. You need to make sure you're taking care of your needs too to keep yourself up to the challenge. It's also a good idea to have someone to switch off with if you can. You take so many other days, other person take so many days. Maybe not for the bills or whatever, but the running to do the medications or the upkeep on the house and personal hygiene. You may ask if a home health nurse can come and help with medications. I'm not sure if they'll do it everyday.....but I do know they'll help and SS will cover it. A home health aide could come and help her with personal hygiene too, again SS should cover it considering her advanced age. Is there a grandchild who could do her cleaning (I'm sure it's fairly light if she's like mother in law) for a small fee or just because they love their grandma? sister in law did mother in law's yard work for the several years before she passed so she didn't have to pay anyone. mother in law had a housekeeper that came in twice a month and would even do her laundry and I'm pretty sure she didn't charge her very much. Try to delegate as much of the responsibility as you can to services or other family that can help. Because you're only one person and if you get down and out there will be no one in place to pick up the slack. ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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