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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 215639" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>HI can't!</p><p> </p><p>I may be the one who left you feeling unsupported. i didn't mean to, honestly. I know how hard it can be with our kids, and esp with a partner who has a drastically different idea of how things should be. </p><p> </p><p>I truly, honestly meant you don't have to justify your relationship, not at all. I understand that people are drawn together for different reasons and in different ways.</p><p> </p><p>Your boyfriend may be an aspie. So may his son. Or not. None of us here can really tell you. I would strongly urge caution on speaking about this with your boyfriend. Esp if he thinks nothing is wrong with him. Heck, my MOM still hasn't broached the subject with MY DAD, and she started thinking it quite a number of years ago. We just don't bring it up iwth him. wouldn't help anything, and he would be very very very extremely upset. So for us and my dad, bringing it up would be lose/lose.</p><p> </p><p>It owuld be good to think of that before speaking of it to your boyfriend. </p><p> </p><p>That doesn't mean that learning about Aspergers and maybe using some of the ideas/techniques you learn on boyfriend may not work. Many of us recommend the book, "The Explosive Child" to help with our kids. But also with other family members. Some of it seems counter-intuitive, but it really works. And it is an easy read, not one of those books that you pore over, flipping back to references and charts (I really hate those lately! - We just started homeschooling my daughter for 8th grade - wayyyy too many appendixes!)</p><p> </p><p>I honestly and truly didn't mean to make you feel hurt or bashed or unwelcome. I just wanted you to stop and think. I said I can't see all of your relationship, and I can't. All I can see is the picture you paint with your words. I don't get body language, or the look in your eyes, or that glow you may get when you talk about boyfriend. And with-o those I sometimes step wrong and say things that hurt.</p><p> </p><p>So I am sorry. I did want you to THINK about the relationship and what needs it fills in you. We ALL have needs that our relationships fill. But if we are struggling with different values sometimes we don't get what we truly need, or get something very different than expected.</p><p> </p><p>Please don't let my rudeness the other post chase you off. I hope we can offer support to you. </p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 215639, member: 1233"] HI can't! I may be the one who left you feeling unsupported. i didn't mean to, honestly. I know how hard it can be with our kids, and esp with a partner who has a drastically different idea of how things should be. I truly, honestly meant you don't have to justify your relationship, not at all. I understand that people are drawn together for different reasons and in different ways. Your boyfriend may be an aspie. So may his son. Or not. None of us here can really tell you. I would strongly urge caution on speaking about this with your boyfriend. Esp if he thinks nothing is wrong with him. Heck, my MOM still hasn't broached the subject with MY DAD, and she started thinking it quite a number of years ago. We just don't bring it up iwth him. wouldn't help anything, and he would be very very very extremely upset. So for us and my dad, bringing it up would be lose/lose. It owuld be good to think of that before speaking of it to your boyfriend. That doesn't mean that learning about Aspergers and maybe using some of the ideas/techniques you learn on boyfriend may not work. Many of us recommend the book, "The Explosive Child" to help with our kids. But also with other family members. Some of it seems counter-intuitive, but it really works. And it is an easy read, not one of those books that you pore over, flipping back to references and charts (I really hate those lately! - We just started homeschooling my daughter for 8th grade - wayyyy too many appendixes!) I honestly and truly didn't mean to make you feel hurt or bashed or unwelcome. I just wanted you to stop and think. I said I can't see all of your relationship, and I can't. All I can see is the picture you paint with your words. I don't get body language, or the look in your eyes, or that glow you may get when you talk about boyfriend. And with-o those I sometimes step wrong and say things that hurt. So I am sorry. I did want you to THINK about the relationship and what needs it fills in you. We ALL have needs that our relationships fill. But if we are struggling with different values sometimes we don't get what we truly need, or get something very different than expected. Please don't let my rudeness the other post chase you off. I hope we can offer support to you. Susie [/QUOTE]
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