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Anyone here have awful "support" from your parents?
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 213895" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>My mother is a strange one. She loves me passionately. She can barely tolerate my daughter because she's of the era that adopted children are just not "right" -- there is something wrong with the child if it is adopted. Try as she might, she can't get over this prejudice. My mother is also controlling and completely egocentric.</p><p> </p><p>My father finally gave up on making her happy and ultimately got a divorce. I don't think my brother talked to her in over 10 years. Right now, I'm at the point where I will not call nor write her. I send her innocuous jokes and cards via email but nothing more. If she chooses to call me, I will talk to her pretty much like I would talk to an acquaintance. I do not tell her about my failures nor successes. It is conversations of generalities. She knows nothing about her granddaughter's life at this point. I feel sorry for my mother. She's losing a lot with her behavior and attitude. That's her choice. I've told her my rules and, unless she's willing to abide by them, this is the relationship we will have. I will always love my mother but I really don't like her right now.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry your mother is being so toxic. I'm sure some of it is an inability to accept her grandchild is not perfect. It really is easier to blame your child than admit your grandchild has invisible challenges. Hopefully, you and your sister will find a working relationship with your mother. If not, then you may have to walk away at least until she realizes having her children and grandchildren in her life are more important than her ego and her opinions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 213895, member: 3626"] My mother is a strange one. She loves me passionately. She can barely tolerate my daughter because she's of the era that adopted children are just not "right" -- there is something wrong with the child if it is adopted. Try as she might, she can't get over this prejudice. My mother is also controlling and completely egocentric. My father finally gave up on making her happy and ultimately got a divorce. I don't think my brother talked to her in over 10 years. Right now, I'm at the point where I will not call nor write her. I send her innocuous jokes and cards via email but nothing more. If she chooses to call me, I will talk to her pretty much like I would talk to an acquaintance. I do not tell her about my failures nor successes. It is conversations of generalities. She knows nothing about her granddaughter's life at this point. I feel sorry for my mother. She's losing a lot with her behavior and attitude. That's her choice. I've told her my rules and, unless she's willing to abide by them, this is the relationship we will have. I will always love my mother but I really don't like her right now. I'm sorry your mother is being so toxic. I'm sure some of it is an inability to accept her grandchild is not perfect. It really is easier to blame your child than admit your grandchild has invisible challenges. Hopefully, you and your sister will find a working relationship with your mother. If not, then you may have to walk away at least until she realizes having her children and grandchildren in her life are more important than her ego and her opinions. [/QUOTE]
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