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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 509417" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Your son sounds very much like my daughter although she started at about age 14. We filed numerous police reports and eventually had her charges with unruliness. She went to court many times and each time they magistrate sent her back home to us with probation. Once he put her in detention for the weekend to teach her a lesson and that did help for several months but she was back to being defiant, staying out all the time, smoking pot and drinking, being violent at home, almost flunking out of school, etc. </p><p></p><p>In our case the courts said several times they thought we could do a better job of managing her than anything they could do. Wrong!!!! Because she was not arrested for drug use at that point they would not order any kind of placement for her. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like this outpatient services they are offering is about as good as you can get right now. If he is defiant and violates the order or doesn't follow through on the requirements they may take further steps. But from what I have seen there are so many kids liek ours and so few services available and they are usually reserved for the ones who commit crimes.</p><p></p><p>I want you to know that our difficult child was very angry at us for filing charges on her or for even calling the police on her when she was violent. She would tell everyone, "what kind of parents call the cops on their own kid?" She carried that anger around with her for years until she finally went to rehab and lived in a sober house and got clean and finally told us she now knows why we did that and if we hadn't she would never have stopped.</p><p></p><p>Your job is to do whatever it takes to help your child and often that means doing something they don't like. Remember what Carroll O'Connor use to say, "get between your kids and drugs anyway you can." Another one of difficult child's friends just died last week of a heroin overdose. It happens so often. At least once a week there is a young person's death notice in the papaer and upon checking it's someone difficult child was in rehab with or met at AA meetings or knew from the past and never got help.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are going through this with your son. He is young and you still have some control over him. Don't wait until he is 18 and you have no say.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 509417, member: 59"] Your son sounds very much like my daughter although she started at about age 14. We filed numerous police reports and eventually had her charges with unruliness. She went to court many times and each time they magistrate sent her back home to us with probation. Once he put her in detention for the weekend to teach her a lesson and that did help for several months but she was back to being defiant, staying out all the time, smoking pot and drinking, being violent at home, almost flunking out of school, etc. In our case the courts said several times they thought we could do a better job of managing her than anything they could do. Wrong!!!! Because she was not arrested for drug use at that point they would not order any kind of placement for her. It sounds like this outpatient services they are offering is about as good as you can get right now. If he is defiant and violates the order or doesn't follow through on the requirements they may take further steps. But from what I have seen there are so many kids liek ours and so few services available and they are usually reserved for the ones who commit crimes. I want you to know that our difficult child was very angry at us for filing charges on her or for even calling the police on her when she was violent. She would tell everyone, "what kind of parents call the cops on their own kid?" She carried that anger around with her for years until she finally went to rehab and lived in a sober house and got clean and finally told us she now knows why we did that and if we hadn't she would never have stopped. Your job is to do whatever it takes to help your child and often that means doing something they don't like. Remember what Carroll O'Connor use to say, "get between your kids and drugs anyway you can." Another one of difficult child's friends just died last week of a heroin overdose. It happens so often. At least once a week there is a young person's death notice in the papaer and upon checking it's someone difficult child was in rehab with or met at AA meetings or knew from the past and never got help. I am so sorry you are going through this with your son. He is young and you still have some control over him. Don't wait until he is 18 and you have no say. Hugs, Nancy [/QUOTE]
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