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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 298022" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Janet, it's pretty obvious I don't have the stereotypical view that many step parents have. That's because I grew up with an awesome step dad who raised us 5 kids as if we were born into his already 7 kid family (grown I might add). This was Mom's 2nd husband, not this last one who passed away. He and my mother divorced when I was 6 or 7 and we still saw him every day and he was still very much our Dad. He even was the man who walked me down the isle on my wedding day. Not my bio dad. He was an excellent example of how to step parent.</p><p> </p><p>I don't get the whole yours and mine thing and I never have. When you marry someone you become a family whether there are children involved or not. In a family there is no Yours and Mine, only Ours.</p><p> </p><p>When K took off with the grands I grieved for her no differently than I would had I given birth to her myself. I grieved for those children. As you all know so well.</p><p> </p><p>In these modern times it is even more important than it ever has been for a child to feel an important part of a family unit as well as an extended family unit. </p><p> </p><p>I dunno. Technically, K is my kid's half sister. I have never used the term. I have never allowed them to refer to her that way. She is as much their sister as their other sibs are. </p><p> </p><p>If you marry someone who has a child, in my opinion it's your obligation to work hard to accept and love that child as you would your own, this includes grandkids.</p><p> </p><p>Never has been a Yours and Mine around here. Just Ours.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> Just more love to spread around.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 298022, member: 84"] Janet, it's pretty obvious I don't have the stereotypical view that many step parents have. That's because I grew up with an awesome step dad who raised us 5 kids as if we were born into his already 7 kid family (grown I might add). This was Mom's 2nd husband, not this last one who passed away. He and my mother divorced when I was 6 or 7 and we still saw him every day and he was still very much our Dad. He even was the man who walked me down the isle on my wedding day. Not my bio dad. He was an excellent example of how to step parent. I don't get the whole yours and mine thing and I never have. When you marry someone you become a family whether there are children involved or not. In a family there is no Yours and Mine, only Ours. When K took off with the grands I grieved for her no differently than I would had I given birth to her myself. I grieved for those children. As you all know so well. In these modern times it is even more important than it ever has been for a child to feel an important part of a family unit as well as an extended family unit. I dunno. Technically, K is my kid's half sister. I have never used the term. I have never allowed them to refer to her that way. She is as much their sister as their other sibs are. If you marry someone who has a child, in my opinion it's your obligation to work hard to accept and love that child as you would your own, this includes grandkids. Never has been a Yours and Mine around here. Just Ours.:happy: Just more love to spread around. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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